Beyond Done With The Crying: More Answers and Advice for Parents of Estranged Adult Children - Softcover

McGregor, Sheri

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0997352256 ISBN 13: 9780997352252

Publisher: Sowing Creek Press, 2021

Synopsis

Beyond Done With the Crying: More Answers and Advice for Parents of Estranged Adult Children contains new information and tools to help parents steer the whole family forward.

• Listen as siblings reveal their turmoil.
• Learn how cultural and familial patterns can influence estrangement or reconciliation.
• Hear from parents what reconciling really takes.

Then make sound decisions . . . and heal.

This follow-up to Sheri McGregor's highly regarded Done With The Crying: Help and Healing for Mothers of Estranged Adult Children (2016) draws from her survey of more than 50,000 parents of estranged adult children, as well as her personal experiences and hundreds of interviews with hurting families. She debunks the faulty thinking and advice of this blame-the-parent era, and provides sensible alternatives that support your well-being. McGregor's reflection points and innovative exercises promote growth and help you connect with your personal integrity and strength.

Embrace your unique brand of resilience. Step into a freer, happier future.

Ten thorough chapters contain relevant research, reflection questions, exercises, and common-sense advice about the gritty, complex issues parents of estranged adult children face. Expand your self-awareness, strengthen your resilience, and take positive action for your life, your family, and your happiness. Gain wisdom from other parents and grandparents, as well as from the grandchildren and siblings.

All parents make mistakes. Some have deep regrets for things they did or didn't do. In one chapter, these parents share how they believe they fell short and how they're managing. How long must a parent bow to guilt, pay penance, and make amends? And, deplorably, do some adult children exploit their guilt? These and other questions are answered.

For any parent of estranged adult children, reconciling may be a solo sport. Even when reconciliations do occur, their success requires wisdom and strength. That's why it's so important to empower yourself, make positive changes, and reclaim your life, even while waiting and continuing to reach out (if you choose to).

Beyond Done With The Crying: More Answers and Advice for Parents of Estranged Adult Children is filled with information and solutions to the complex, real-life problems that plague parents of estranged adult children and their families.

Estrangement leaves a confusing and frustrating legacy for the entire family. McGregor knows firsthand the grit, courage, and determination it takes to reclaim identity, remain a supportive parent to other children, and help the family move forward. In Beyond Done With the Crying, she helps you do the same.

About this title

About the Author

Sheri McGregor knows the pain of an adult child's rejection. Oneof her five adult children disengaged from the family, which sether on a quest to find answers, reclaim her happiness, and helpother parents of estranged children. In late 2013, she foundedRejectedParents.NET where she connects with hurting parentsfrom around the world. McGregor holds a bachelor's degree in psychology, a master'sdegree in human behavior, and has recently completed two yearstoward a doctorate degree in psychology. McGregor works as a lifecoach and has served on the advisory board for National University'sCollege of Letters and Sciences. Her long career as a writerincludes articles on psychology, health, and a variety of other topics, which have appeared in dozens of national and internationalpublications. She has also written for anthologies, websites, andorganizations including the non-profit Families for DepressionAwareness. Sheri McGregor has been a repeat guest on a San DiegoFOX Television affiliate, on KUSI TV, and on a variety of radioshows and podcasts. Her quotes and books have appeared or beenfeatured in publications and at sites including CNN, HuffPost, AskEllie, Good Housekeeping, AARP, The Saturday Evening Post, VanityFair, PsychCentral, Self Help Daily, The Star, Portsmouth Daily Times, Great Senior Living, and Considerable. Sheri McGregor has become a powerful voice for the parents ofestranged adult children. Her highly regarded book Done With TheCrying: Help and Healing for Mothers of Estranged Adult Children helpsparents break free from emotional pain and move forward in theirown lives. As of this date, approximately 60,000 copies are in circulation, and in 2019, an accompanying workbook was released forrepeat readers or those using the e-book or audiobook. Done WithThe Crying was a Foreword Reviews Finalist and a winner of a LivingNow Book Award. McGregor's latest offering, Beyond Done WithThe Crying: More Answers and Advice for Parents of Estranged AdultChildren is a must-have for those enduring this unique sorrow. Sheri McGregor lives in the Sierra foothills where she lovesto hike, is inspired by nature, and is grateful for every moment.She has recently brought her love for gardening to houseplants andmay soon be writing from an indoor jungle.

From the Inside Flap

Advanced Acclaim for Beyond Done With The Crying

"Sheri McGregor has written an incredibly powerful, helpful book for those
who have experienced parent-child estrangement. Through real-life stories
and her own insight and expertise, she offers tips, tools, and resources to help
parents navigate through difficult emotions. The book includes many self-help
exercises that guide the reader toward better health, healing, forgiveness, and
acceptance. Beyond Done helps parents change their thinking and their actions
so they can move forward in their lives with self-compassion to find meaning,
fulfillment, and yes, even joy. I highly recommend this book to anyone who has
experienced, or has an interest in, parent-child estrangement."
—Janet Singer, author of Overcoming OCD: A Journey to Recovery

"Sheri McGregor has conducted hundreds of interviews and done extensive
research on the subject of estrangement. From the data she collected and
from her personal experience, she explores the many challenges of estrangement.
This book is an important contribution to understanding and navigating
this surprisingly common family tragedy. Beyond Done offers invaluable
support and guidance for those seeking a new life of purpose, self-respect,
love, and peace."
—Nancy Lee Klune, author of Banished, a Grandmother Alone

"A must-read for parents of estranged adult children. An essential book for
the professionals who work with them. This new book by Sheri McGregor
is a valuable addition to the literature available for parents and families who
have experienced the pain and trauma of estrangement. The tone is one of a
compassionate and dear friend, sharing hard truths with you and letting your
pain wash away.
At some point the why is not as important as the what. The cruel behavior,
the lies, the on again off again infrequent contact, the rewritten history, the
untrue accusations, the merry-go-round of hope, and the baseless demands
combined with a culture that tends to blame and shame parents, especially
mothers, cause a deep grief and a hole in the heart. What this book does is
realign the facts with the behaviors and offers solutions to parents who are
hurting and traumatized. All parents make mistakes. Few parents make ones
that are so egregious that estrangement is the best solution. All in all, Sheri
offers a blueprint for bouncing forward from this trauma and strengthening
one's resilience."
—Mara J. Briere, MA, CFLE, Grow a Strong Family, Inc.

"In her new book, Beyond Done With The Crying, Sheri McGregor addresses
the sorrows and triumphs of estrangement through the real-life stories of
people doing their best to survive the trauma of estrangement. To help with
the goal of acceptance, and to gain strength and understanding in recovering,
the author introduces several exercises. These help readers recognize
and examine their thoughts and actions and gain awareness on a journey of
understanding and self-growth. Sheri encourages us to take charge of our
own lives and our own health, which is key to our well-being.
Whether you are just now beginning this journey or you are moving
steadily toward acceptance of estrangement and your own wellness, this
book gives you various avenues to self-exploration and healing. I, for one,
am eager to more fully explore these exercises, remembering that taking care
of me will equal a happier future."
—Claire L. Cunning, author of Poems from the Heart for Hope and Healing:
For those who have experienced estrangement from a loved one

"Sheri McGregor's latest book, Beyond Done With The Crying: More Answers and
Advice for Parents of Estranged Adult Children, builds on her original, Done With
The Crying, in which she shared her personal story of how she became the
parent of an estranged adult child and how she and her family coped with it.
This time around, McGregor takes a more expansive approach, sharing
what she's learned after conducting hundreds of interviews with other parents
of estranged adult children. Immediately acknowledging that 'estrangement is
a messy business,' she begins by acknowledging that just as there are no perfect
children, there are no perfect parents, and continues by sharing gritty realities
readers won't find in other books on this subject, including cases of child sexual
abuse. Throughout the ten chapters, which cover important topics like taking
care of your mind, body and spirit, the impact on the greater family—including
grandparents and other children, and situations where only one parent is
rejected, McGregor includes reflection exercises, and a plethora of resources.
Perhaps one of the biggest takeaways is the realization that if you dig deep
enough into just about any family tree, you'll find instances of estranged adult
children. McGregor's research reveals that adult estrangement is much more
common than most people are aware. This, because it's been one of those 'dirty
laundry' family issues no one wants to discuss publicly. Just as acceptance or
recognition of LGBTQ sexual orientation, alcoholism or spousal abuse formerly
were, before they were 'outed.' Highly recommended."
—Anne L. Holmes, APR, "Boomer in Chief,"
National Association of Baby Boomer Women

Edition details

• Publisher: Sowing Creek Press
• Publication date: 2021
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 0997352256
• ISBN 13: 9780997352252
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 408