Till Death Do Us Part (Unless I Kill You First): A Step By Step Guide To Resolving Relationship Conflicts - Softcover

Jamie Turndorf

Softcover

ISBN 10: 1439225206 ISBN 13: 9781439225202

Publisher: BookSurge Publishing, 2009

Synopsis

World famous couples therapist, Dr. Jamie Turndorf (a.k.a. Dr. Love), shows how to use her ground breaking, proven conflict resolution program to preserve or reignite the love that brought you and your partner together. Dr. Turndorf is the first therapist to identify the link between specific childhood wounds and the relationship problems we experience as adults. Her Core TherapyTM method has created happy relationships for over 90% of married, unmarried, and gay couples who use it. Relationships with parents and children, friends and siblings also benefit well. In chapters filled with easy-to-follow advice and helpful anecdotes, she provides all the tools needed to calm an emotional exchange before it becomes a fight. Learn how to: - understand the chemistry of conflict - identify and avoid Fight Traps (dysfunctional fighting patterns) - recognize and defuse the three main arguments around sex - master listening skills that will improve any conversation - negotiate calmly and effectively about almost any issue

About this title

About the Author

Jamie Turndorf, Ph.D., is a practicing couples therapist and the director of the Center for Emotional Communication in Millbrook, New York, where she lives with her husband. She can be heard weekly on WEVD radio in New York. Her Web site, www.askdrlove.com, receives more than 1,000,000 hits per month.

Review

I just finished devouring this book. Absolutely great stuff. This is the help I needed twenty years ago. Duh! Now I get it! My marriage of 30 years is over BUT maybe this can help me save a one year old relationship that has foundered due to my lack of "conflict resolution" skills. I'm going to re-read this book then do my best to apply what I've learned. (Then I'll read it again). --Scott Sandow

Most "professionals" try to make fighting acceptable in relationships and I think it's because they don't have a clue about how to help couples stop the fighting. Dr. Turndorf's "core therapy" method is awesome because she doesn't give quick-fixes and one-size fits all techniques that don't work. Instead she explains that all relationship fighting is caused by unhealed childhood baggage that makes you overreact and causes more fighting. Dr. T shows you how to figure out what wounds are causing your fights, and then she shows you how to help each other heal the wounds. Then you're ready for her step-by-step conflict resolution program, which works. The results are nothing short of amazing. --Dean Temple

This self-help book centers on Dr. Turndorf's proven method for resolving relationship conflict before it gets ugly, abusive, and over. The author, aka Dr. Love, bases her conflict resolution methodology on research that has led her to conclude, "fighting creates a chemical imbalance" that leads to more aggressive and negative behavior. This book provides ways to end or at least reduce the cycle of relationship warfare that spirals into divorce, hatred, and oftentimes leads to physical and mental abuse.

Her conflict-resolution steps are simple to follow. Sometimes we all can use an arbitrator like Dr. T. Her writing style is so personal that it feels like she's in your living room guiding you to end the conflict and reconnect. This book is for anyone who wants a better relationship with a partner, a friend, a sister, brother, mother, father, daughter or son. --Debbie Berk

love this book. Even though it's written for couples, I am living proof that Dr. Turndorf's conflict resolution techniques improve any kind of relationship. Now I get along with my daughter! This book is packed with humorous anecdotes and case examples. It's a fun read even if you don't have relationship conflict. --Emilie Krueger

Edition details

• Publisher: BookSurge Publishing
• Publication date: 2009
• ISBN 10: 1439225206
• ISBN 13: 9781439225202
• Binding: Paperback
• Language: English
• Number of pages: 254