Infidelity, a Survival Guide - Hardcover

Lusterman, Don-David

Hardcover

ISBN 10: 1567313337 ISBN 13: 9781567313338

Publisher: Fine Communications, 1999

Synopsis

An affair is a major crisis in your relationship, but one which you can survive. For some couples, once an infidelity and its after effects are behind them, the marriage is actually stronger than before. For others, coming to terms with what the affair was really about can enable a couple to break up with less anger and create a settlement that will offer their children the best hope for a healthy adjustment after the divorce. Infidelity is a step-by-step guide that will help you cope with the emotional impact of an affair and either choose to break up or begin to build a new model for your marriage.

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Review

Don-David Lusterman, a psychologist practicing in Baldwin, New York, believes that couples who work hard can save their marriages following an affair: "People often find that once infidelity is discovered and its aftereffects are behind them, their relationship is stronger than before, and subsequent infidelity is unlikely." This isn't true only of married couples--Lusterman points out that people in long-term, committed relationships, whether straight or gay, face the same devastating emotions and have to go through a similar rebuilding process if they want to remain together after one has strayed. Whether or not a troubled couple chooses to stay together, Lusterman says the best outcome is when both partners experience changes and new insights into their lives. He provides several case studies in which couples began to regain their trust through new communication, and instructs on the kind of feelings-expressing language that can help. (He also provides a section on finding a good therapist.) This book will help people on either side of an affair begin to understand what's going on, and help them find the resources they need to continue that quest. --Ben Kallen

About the Author

Don-David Lusterman, Ph. D. , is a licensed psychologist in private practice in Baldwin, NY. He specializes in marriage and family therapy. A frequent media guest, he has appeared on The Today Show and Oprah and been the subject of numerous radio and print interviews. He has spent thousands of hours counseling clients who were dealing with infidelity in their marriages. This helped him to develop a model for intervention that can enables both partners to make decisions.

Edition details

• Publisher: Fine Communications
• Publication date: 1999
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 1567313337
• ISBN 13: 9781567313338
• Binding: Hardcover
• Edition number: 1
• Number of pages: 224