The Sexy Bitch's Book of Doing It, Getting It, and Giving It - Softcover

Everett, Flic

Softcover

ISBN 10: 1569753911 ISBN 13: 9781569753910

Publisher: Amorata Press, 2004

Synopsis

"Sexy bitches" aren’t about looks, they’re about attitude. And attitude is what this book is all about. Author Flic Everett offers up a snappy, smart, and sassy approach to sex in the 21st century. As fun to read as it is to put into practice, this book doesn't waste time with the same old sex advice about feeling comfortable with your body and communicating with your boyfriend. Bor-ing! Dishing the dirty truth on everything from foreplay and oral sex to sex toys and fantasy games, The Sexy Bitch’s Book of Doing It, Getting It, and Giving It is about being creative, spontaneous, and skillful in your sex life. The author helps aspiring sexy bitches overcome inhibitions and reservations with real-world tactics ("If you can't say it out loud, text message his cell phone as he drives home from work"). Those ready for the next level are guided into the realm of adventurous sex with knowledgeable advice on how to get what they want.

About this title

About the Author

Flic Everett is a scriptwriter and consultant for the UK television show SEX TIPS FOR GIRLS. A highly successful journalist and writer, she is a sex expert and agony aunt for a UK woman's magazine.

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His and Hers (page 136)
It should be becoming clear by now that men and women have markedly different experiences of orgasm. Which is why simultaneous orgasm is so rare. Forget all the films you've ever seen where they’re at it like ferrets in a bag, then suddenly they both go all eye-rolling and start shouting 'uh! Yes! Oh god!' and collapse in a heap at the same time. She's so faking it. Well, so is he, he's an actor, but if they were real people she still would be. Because simultaneous orgasm hardly ever happens through penetration, though it can occasionally occur through mutual masturbation, so long as you speed it up and then slow it down to match your partners' rate of arousal. Which makes sex sound about as exciting as test-driving a Dodge minivan, but still. And if he is still bleating on about why you aren't having multiple, award-winning orgasms during sex, you may wish to point out that 28% of women can't come at all during sex, with or without clitoral stimulation. Though I couldn't begin to imagine how they found that out – 'excuse me, Miss, we’re conducting a survey ...'
Anyhow, the joy of simultaneous orgasm is a myth. Because even if you do manage to achieve one, you’'re both so busy galloping along your own little race-tracks to the finishing line, you don’t pay any attention to each other – and surely at least part of the point of sex is to enjoy your partner's responses?
The best way to do it, if possible, is for you to come first, and then let him come. Otherwise, he'll come, then go all comatose and sleepy because he's been flooded with dopamine, and you'll be left to finish the job yourself, whether you like it or not. Oh, he'll make some half-hearted hand-flapping attempt, but if you want to be sure of decent orgasms all round, try to get yours in first.

Hovering Butterfly (page 144)
'Sit on my face' is generally used as more of a crude insult than a romantic invitation - however, if we cunningly change the description to the far more sensitive 'hovering butterfly,' the experience becomes instantly more attractive. Sitting on his face is more a matter of suspending yourself above his face – if you actually sat on it, he’d suffocate, which may be an admirable way to go, but is perhaps a little unnecessarily dramatic. The best way to do it is by holding onto something behind his head – like the head rest– otherwise your thigh muscles will go into spasm halfway through. If there's nothing to hold onto, lean forward, and put your hands on the wall. The beauty of this position is that he has full access both visually and physically – he can part your labia with his fingers, and see exactly what he's doing and where, with his tongue. He can also reach your breasts and backside – so if you can overcome your inhibitions, face-sitting is a great way to enjoy advanced oral sex. Note, however, that him sitting on your face really doesn't work – unless you have a whole anal thing going on.

Edition details

• Publisher: Amorata Press
• Publication date: 2004
• ISBN 10: 1569753911
• ISBN 13: 9781569753910
• Binding: Paperback
• Language: English
• Number of pages: 184