The Date Rape Prevention Book: The Essential Guide for Girls & Women - Softcover

Scott Lindquist

Softcover

ISBN 10: 1570714746 ISBN 13: 9781570714740

Publisher: Sourcebooks Inc, 1999

Synopsis

Provides advice to young girls and women on how to protect themselves from becoming a victim of date rape, including information on date rape drugs, avoiding dangerous situations, and physical manuevers to escape violent perpetrators.

About this title

About the Author

Scott Lindquist is certified through the Florida State Attorney General's Office as a Crime Prevention Practitioner and through the Georgia Crime Prevention Association as a Crime Prevention Specialist in rape prevention. He is a graduate of the Florida Crime Prevention Training Institute.

Lindquist has presented his crime prevention seminar to hundreds of thousands of people in universities such as the Southern Connecticut State University, Georgia Tech University, and the City University of New York, as well as in corporations such as AT&T, 3M Corp., American Express, and Texaco, and government agencies such as the Internal Revenue Service, the Social Security Administration, and the U.S. Federal Reserve Bank. He also has been interviewed on hundreds of television and radio stations worldwide.

Scott Lindquist has made it his life's work to eradicate rape as an issue for American women. He is available to speak to college, university, or corporate groups, and can be reached at:

To book Scott Lindquist as a speaker, contact The Lavin Agency at: 800-762-4234
Email: scott-lindquist@eudoramail.com

Reviews

YA-An important, readable book for all young adults. Lindquist informs readers that a woman is five times more likely to be raped by someone she knows than by a stranger. The first and largest section addresses prevention. Lindquist lists defensive actions a victim can take, dangerous situations to avoid, personality types and actions of potential rapists, and verbalizations that a potential victim can make to lessen her easy-target persona. The second section offers help for those who have suffered the degradation of date rape. How to avoid tampering with potential evidence, why the crime should be reported, how to deal with the police and the court system, and how to go about recovering are all discussed in a compassionate manner. A third section explains harassment, stalking, and dating and domestic violence-what to look for and how to deal with it. The final section addresses male readers and discusses the underlying themes that are so pervasive in movies and the media: that women "ask for it" or "tease" or "don't really mean NO" and are therefore responsible for their own attacks. A well-done and informative presentation that debunks many commonly held beliefs about rape, its victims, and its perpetrators.
Carol DeAngelo, Kings Park Library, Burke, VA
Copyright 2000 Reed Business Information, Inc.

A crime specialist who frequently gives rape prevention seminars, Lindquist writes in a streetwise voice that will be familiar to those who watch police programs on television, yet that does not mask the genuine sensitivity and sympathy he feels for women who are the victims of rape or attempted rape. Written for men and women of all ages, his book is formatted simply, with easy-to-follow chapters outlining prevention strategies and survival techniques. His advice mixes common sense (follow your instincts) and a degree of caution that can border on paranoia (anybody could be a rapist; trust no one; pour your own drinks--even if you are having soda--and never finish a drink you have left unattended). Still, the book succeeds in three areas. First, it dispels myths about rapists, pointing out that the vast majority are white, middle-class males who attack women they know, often without recognizing that they are committing rape. It also reiterates that nonconsensual sex, even between acquaintances, is a crime that can and--if the survivor is emotionally able to do so--should be prosecuted. Finally, it does not excuse rape by blaming the victim. Detailed sections identifying behaviors that may suggest a man may be dangerous, as well as delicate recommendations on how to treat a survivor and a chapter aimed at men that calls for an end to violence, are particularly helpful. (Apr.)
Copyright 2000 Reed Business Information, Inc.

Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.

Since 1982, when I began my career as a crime prevention specialist, there has been a media trend focused on the related issues of rape, sexual assault, sexual harassment, and domestic violence. The question remains as to whether these problems have become worse, or whether more women are reporting them. There are many books, articles, and studies on the epidemic of sexual assault in the United States, most of which are statistical and address the issues after the fact--after the assault has taken place, after the violence has been committed. This book is about prevention. The challenge facing this book is how to reach women at all stages of life about the realities of sexual assault without scaring them into denial. The mere mention of the word "rape" causes many people so much discomfort that they want either to ignore the problem or to pretend it doesn't exist. It is for this reason that I have tried to simplify stories and other related crime prevention information from the most reliable and up-to-date sources into a concise guidebook for preventing sexual assault in all its forms, with the emphasis on date/acquaintance rape. This book will explore a number of dangerous situations in which a woman might find herself being sexually assaulted. These situations include date/acquaintance rape, which is the main focus of this book, as well as stranger rape, sexual harassment, stalking, dating violence, and domestic violence. These areas will be touched upon, with the emphasis on prevention, and additional resources will be given in the "Resources" section for those who wish a more in-depth discussion. The information in this book is applicable to girls in high school, women embarking on a college/university experience, as well as mature women who are particularly vulnerable if they are re-entering the dating process after being in a long-term relationship. (It is beyond the scope of this book to address rape within a marriage or rape in which the victim is male, however, the "Suggested Reading" section contains titles of reading material in those areas.) This book in many ways is actually about choices. The choices a woman makes at the beginning of a date and subsequent relationship give her the options she will have as the situation progresses and the relationship matures. The more options she has, the more power she has and the better her chances of getting out of a dangerous situation without being hurt. Sometimes, even with her best efforts, a woman is unable to stop her attacker. For this reason, this book includes information on the best way to proceed after it is too late for prevention. A woman who knows what to do next and what to expect from the process has a better chance of finding the help she needs to recover fully and in a shorter time. This book is also about the choices a man makes in his relationships. Many men would never consider their own actions as rape, and yet they may press on even after a woman asks them to stop. Traditional attitudes hold a double standard that has some men seeing certain behaviors in women (such as how they dress, or their willingness to drink or take drugs), as a sign the woman is "asking for" sex. Men also may believe or assert that, once aroused, they are no longer in control of their sexual behavior. This is patently false. This book includes an "Advice for Men" chapter exploring these issues further. I hope this book will not just educate, but also will motivate all women, whatever their ages, to be more aware, awake, alert, and committed with all of their might to not becoming another victim. This book will give you information about rape prevention, sexual harassment, stalking, and dating violence, but information without action will not make a difference in a woman's or man's life. I sincerely hope you will choose to take action before your choices are limited or taken away. There is no time to waste. This book is not likely to change anybody's attitude overnight about the opposite sex or his or her own gender. This only can be done through consistent education, but with the knowledge that this book has to offer, a young girl or woman might be able to recognize a dangerous man and/or situation before things get beyond her control. This book also may be useful to men and boys and their fathers, who, consciously or unconsciously, have helped create an environment of rape and violence. In the final analysis, it is they who must stop the violence against women. If even one rape is prevented as a result of this book, it will have served its purpose. However, it is my dream for the women of this nation that rape will disappear as an issue for them, and that men will understand that successful relationships are win/win, and that sex without consent is never an option.

Edition details

• Publisher: Sourcebooks Inc
• Publication date: 1999
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 1570714746
• ISBN 13: 9781570714740
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 209