Parenting Your Out-of-Control Child: An Effective, Easy-to-Use Program for Teaching Self-Control - Softcover

Kapalka, George M.

Softcover

ISBN 10: 1572244844 ISBN 13: 9781572244849

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications, 2007

Synopsis

Most children learn to stop throwing temper tantrums, lying, refusing to go to bed or take a bath at an early age. But some have trouble with impulsivity and self-control, problems that, if left unchecked, can lead to more serious long-term issues that can even cross the line into crime and delinquency. This book offers a sound and safe step-by-step program for heading off conflict and getting your child to cooperate.

This step-by-step approach concentrates on the most common out-of-control behaviors the author has encountered in his extensive work with parents and children. It advises you on the finer points of effective discipline, including eye contact, body language, tone of voice, and word choice. You'll learn a uniquely effective strategy for managing an out-of-control child: the behavior contract. With this technique, you can establish clearly what you expect from your child and make clear the consequences when he or she does-or does not-exercise behavior control. With a little effort and patience and a lot of love, this guide will help you control and find peace with even the most defiant child.

About this title

About the Author

George M. Kapalka, PhD, is assistant professor of psychological counseling at Monmouth University in West Long Branch, NJ. He earned a doctorate in clinical psychology from Fairleigh Dickinson University and holds board certifications in several areas of practice, including clinical psychology, psychopharmacology, and learning disabilities. Currently, he is the editor of the New Jersey Journal of Professional Counseling. He maintains a part-time private practice, heads a state-approved independent Child Study Team, and is a member of medical staff at Meridian Health Systems' Brick Hospital.

From the Inside Flap

This book provides a practical road map for anyone wishing to implement a successful program for children with behavior management problems. It is designed for parents and caregivers of children with challenging behavioral difficulties, but its applications are not limited to this group alone. Anyone working with children who are struggling with behavior management difficulties should have this valuable book available to them. --Ronald T. Brown, Ph.D., ABPP, is professor of public health, psychology, pediatrics and psychiatry and behavioral sciences and dean of the College of Health Professions at Temple University

This is a terrific book that will be a valuable resource for parents with children and adolescents. Kapalka has written a highly readable, practical book that incorporates the latest ideas about handling difficult children. It is filled with great examples that will help all parents. This book will go to the top of my suggested readings list. --James H. Bray, Ph.D., author of Stepfamilies: Love, Marriage, and Parenting in the First Decade

A wonderful resource, this book is succinct, practical, and clearly written. It offers many useful suggestions and plans that can be easily carried out within the context of parenting training and behavior therapy. I wholeheartedly recommend this book to psychologists, mental health practitioners, parents, and graduate students in training. I will personally use it in my practice and on my syllabi.
--Margaret Alvarez, Psy.D., MSCP, Brain Behavior Center in Pomona, NY

There is no user's guide to being a parent, but Kapalka has provided the next best thing. This easy-to-read book provides clear and concise strategies that all parents can employ with their children. Parents, educators, and counselors alike can effective solutions to many troubling parenting dilemmas. Best of all, Kapalka has offered parents a method for creating a healthy family environment in which parents and children have the opportunity to be responsible, respected, and happy. --Matt Englar-Carlson, Ph.D., associate professor of counseling at the California State University at Fullerton

This is a must-read for every parent concerned about their child's behavior. Kapalka offers solid, concrete recommendations that are well-grounded in the psychological literature, providing parents with wise advice and needed practical tools that allow them to deal with being overwhelmed by their child's behavior. I especially enjoyed the real-life examples and was impressed with the down-to-earth approach that Kapalka adopts in offering his suggestions. It is a well-written, engrossing text that I recommend with unqualified enthusiasm. --Stephen R. Wester, Ph.D., is associate professor in the Department of Educational Psychology at the University of Wisconsin, Milwaukee

This book pulls together the best practices in parenting today to address the problems of parenting the strong-willed child. Kapalka has effectively identified key areas of parenting problems, spelled out an effective approach to resolving the difficulties, and described how to move from conflict to cooperation. This easy-to-read text will be a blessing to parents in need of effective guidance, as well as to practitioners who work with them. It is highly recommended for its practical applications, reasonable guidelines, and helpful examples, --Arthur Horne, Ph.D., distinguished research professor emeritus in the Department of Counseling and Human Development Services of the College of Education at the University of Georgia

Kapalka has written a very readable and useful book on parenting skills. The book is well organized and cuts to the heart of the issues and potential solutions for parents and therapists alike. --Mark Stevens, Ph.D., director of University Counseling Services at the California State University, Northridge, and president of Division 51 of the American Psychological Association

Kapalka has written a wonderful book, giving parents an excellent addition to works from Barkley and others. His writing demonstrates that he understand difficult children and the problems parents run into when they try to help them grow up successfully in an ever changing environment. Perhaps most importantly, Kapalka clearly understands what it takes to be a competent parent. He is gentle yet firm in his convictions when advising his readers to embrace their roles as parents. This book is now required reading for my patient-parents and my post-doctoral fellows. --John Courtney, Psy.D., MP, is assistant clinical professor of psychiatry and neurology at Tulane University Health Science Center

This book gives parents an easy-to-read understanding of their out of control child. The practical understanding Kapalka offers helps parents better understand what is occurring in their children. Being "out of control" becomes far more predictable with the insights and strategies this book offers. I can certainly recommend it for my patients and their families. --Thomas M. Kozak, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas and Michigan

Kapalka's clear yet theoretically well grounded approach lays out a roadmap for parents that stresses the positive and optimizes the chance to experience success--for both the parent and the child. This book will serve as a wonderful resource to the parents of impulsive children with limited self-control. I heartily recommend it. --Leslie H. MacCardell, Ph.D., is a clinical child psychologist in private practice

I highly recommend this book because it is very practical, easy to understand, and detailed in its description of steps parents can follow to manage behavior problems both in and out of the home. The book's progression and repetition of the content makes this difficult topic easy for parents to learn. It should be a very valuable treatment resource for therapists who work with parents needing help with child behavior management problems. I certainly plan on using it in my practice. It should be a very valuable contribution to the parenting literature. --Ed Kovach, Ph.D., psychologist in private practice in Clarksville, TN

A wonderful addition to the list of books I recommend to the families with whom I work. As a child psychologist who works with children who are strong-willed and hard to manage, I found this book to provide a comprehensive and well-thought out plan for child management. Kapalka took the concepts of Russell Barkley and expanded on them in an extremely thorough and user-friendly way. Kapalka provides lots of detailed examples and specifics about the sometimes-complex interventions. This book should be read by all who have children. --Linda Alverson-Eiland, Ph.D., child psychologist in private practice in Birmingham, AL, and president of the Alabama Psychological Association.

Edition details

• Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
• Publication date: 2007
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 1572244844
• ISBN 13: 9781572244849
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 192