Partnering: A New Kind of Relationship - Softcover

Stone, Hal; Stone, Sidra

Softcover

ISBN 10: 1577311078 ISBN 13: 9781577311072

Publisher: New World Library, Nataraj, 2000

Synopsis

Famed therapists Hal and Sidra Stone show readers how to turn their relationships into true "joint ventures" - ones in which partners balance their need for relationship with their need for individuality, relinquish judgment and criticism, improve their decision-making and communication abilities, celebrate their sensuality and sexuality, and include children in their lives without sacrificing their own relationship. The Stones' greatest contribution has been revealing the many selves that make up our personalities. In this book, they show how those selves impact our relationships, and they offer both general concepts and specific tips that will help couples of all kinds succeed.

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Drawing on pop psych paradigms from the '70s and more than two decades of experience counseling couples, both privately and in groups and seminars, the Stones (Embracing Each Other; Embracing Our Selves, etc.) advise readers on how to transform their intimate relationships into a "joint venture" based on "cooperation and equality, mutual respect and mutual empowerment." While they frequently refer to "the many selves" within each person (the "voice dialogue" therapy for which they are known involves these various "voices" in conversation with one another), the Stones' examples primarily feature an "inner parent" or "inner child," along the lines of the '70s classic I'm OK, You're OK. Their "no-fault" approach to conflict resolution in marriage is underscored by relatively benign case studies in which the partners tend to fall into traditional, stereotyped roles. Additionally, the Stones provide a list of "top ten challenges" to committed relationships that is incomplete, if not seriously unbalanced, in its neglect of such topics as conflict with in-laws, lack of money, problems on the job and addictions. While they offer good basic advice, and their view of the relationship as a "third entity" needing attention and nurture is sound, the Stones' overall approach is dated and simplistic, aimed mainly at couples who are already pretty well off.
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The main theme in the authors' newest book is that for relationships to work, participants have to take time to focus on each other, making all other distractions (including kids and work) secondary. Granted, this isn't anything that hasn't been said before. However, the Stones (Embracing Ourselves; Embracing Your Inner Critic) couch a lot of their explanations and exercises in Jungian and New Age-y terms. For example, they talk about the multiple personas each of us have and the importance of understanding which persona is "in charge" when dealing with one's partner and adjusting that persona if necessary. Likewise, they devote a chapter to what they term "energetic connection" and explain how to practice sharing energy back and forth with your partner. For public libraries where interest warrants.
-Pamela A. Matthews, Gettysburg Coll. Lib., PA
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Edition details

• Publisher: New World Library, Nataraj
• Publication date: 2000
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 1577311078
• ISBN 13: 9781577311072
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 256