Mindful Loving: 10 Practices for Creating Deeper Connections - Hardcover

Grayson, Henry

Hardcover

ISBN 10: 1592400264 ISBN 13: 9781592400263

Publisher: Gotham, 2003

Synopsis

In this groundbreaking book based on his bestselling audio teaching series, a distinguished psychologist shares his breakthrough techniques for creating deeper and more lasting connections with our loved ones.

"Every time we think, we set into motion the entire creative mechanism. Love is not so much an emotion as it is a conscious, willful decision we make."

Dr. Henry Grayson puts aside the traditional methods of family counseling to show you how to look at your relationships from an entirely different perspective. Combining Western psychology, Eastern philosophy, a variety of spiritual traditions, and today's newest current in scientific thinking, Grayson guides you through ten simple but specific and effective practices, and shares crucial insights about:

* The power of thought to heal our relationships and ourselves
* How to break the vicious cycle of interaction that traps us in patterns of resentment and isolation
* How to change our core beliefs by making perceptual shifts that end suffering
* The six forms of counterfeit love and nine barriers to love
* Unblocking the flow of love and choosing love over fear
* Creating a spiritual marriage rather than an ego-based marriage
* The ten characteristics of empowering love

About this title

About the Author

Dr. Henry Grayson is a pre-eminent psychologist and the author of three acclaimed professional works and the bestselling "Sounds True" audio teaching series called The New Physics of Love, on which Mindful Loving is based. He founded and directs The National Institute for Psychotherapies in New York City and is frequently invited to speak at churches, synagogues, hospitals, libraries, and professional conferences.

Reviews

Psychologist Grayson here explains why happiness in relationships lies in the ability of the participants to engage in a spiritual marriage, a theory he established in The New Physics of Love, the audio series on which this book is based. During a lecture Grayson attended on the parallels between new physics and ancient mystical thought, he became convinced that mind, energy and matter intimately connect all humans and all living beings together-a concept he deemed to have great consequence for improving relationships. Most marriages are ego-based and characterized by partners who want gratification, pleasure and security from each other, he says; if our desires are not met, we attempt to change our partner's behavior, which can create a downward spiral of disappointment and dissatisfaction. Grayson believes that conflict will dissipate and marriages will grow when husbands and wives surrender their egos. He describes, for example, how a wife's hostile fantasies towards her husband were a factor in his verbal abuse of her. When the woman began to think of her husband as the man she loved, he stopped attacking her with words. Put into practice, a spiritual marriage requires that unconditional love be given without the expectation of receiving anything in return. Included are ten ways to overcome obstacles to achieving a spiritual marriage, including how to change negative core beliefs, unblock the flow of love and meditate to quiet the mind. Although Grayson is obviously sincere, his focus on unconditional love even in the face of abuse may strike some as unrealistic.
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Edition details

• Publisher: Gotham
• Publication date: 2003
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 1592400264
• ISBN 13: 9781592400263
• Binding: Hardcover
• Number of pages: 285