The Impossibility of Sex: Stories of the Intimate Relationship between Therapist and Client - Softcover

Orbach, Susie

Softcover

ISBN 10: 1855753332 ISBN 13: 9781855753334

Publisher: Routledge, 2005

Synopsis

In this book I have struggled with certain words without a satisfactory conclusion. I am unhappy about all the words used to describe the person who visits the therapist's consulting room. Is she or he a patient? Well, sometimes yes. Certain individuals like that word because it captures for them the sense that there is something wrong, an emotional illness. Is she or he a client? Again, sometimes yes. Certain individuals like that word because it connotes a kind of consultative process. Is she or he an analysand? Certain individuals like this word because it conveys something about the process of a therapy and it has a symmetry: analyst–analysand. I myself find that all these words capture something about the therapy and the therapy process but are considerably less than perfect. In what follows I have chosen to use the words interchangeably, as well as the words psychotherapist, therapist and analyst. In the text, in the musings in italics, I have usually referred to the primary carer in the person's early life as mother. I realize that this is not always the case. There are fathers who have primary responsibility for their children from birth and there are relatives and nannies who fulfil this role. Rarely in my clinical experience of seeing adults has this role been an enterprise between two people in the way that it is becoming for some couples with children today. We have yet to see the effects of joint child-rearing on adult psychologies so I have retained the notion of the mother or mother substitute, a notion which will have to be expanded as the generations now raising children make new arrangements between them. I have also chosen for simplicity's sake to use the word 'she' throughout for the personal pronoun rather than 'she or he'.

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About the Author

Susie Orbach is a psychotherapist and writer. She co-founded the Women's Therapy Centre and Antidote, the organisation promoting emotional literacy and is a visiting Professor at the LSE. She has a practice seeing individuals and couples and consulting to organisations. Her numerous works include 'Fat is a Feminist Issue' (1978), 'Hunger Strike' (1986), 'The Impossibility of Sex' (1999), and 'On Eating' (2002).

Review

'Orbach powerfully captures the risks, the excitements and the emotional truths of the psychotherapeutic process...intelligent and honest.'- Anthony Clare, Literary Review' Orbach's elegant new book is about the feelings that a therapist might have in their day-to-day work with patients...here we have the living, breathing, sweating therapist with a body and with desires.'- Darian Leader, Observer'An extraordinary picture of the therapist at work...She writes bravely and what comes shining through is the risk, the balancing act that each party to the therapy is involved in.'- Penelope Dening, Irish Times

About this edition

• Publisher: Routledge
• Publication date: 2005
• ISBN 10: 1855753332
• ISBN 13: 9781855753334
• Binding: Paperback
• Edition number: 1
• Number of pages: 224