The Shadow Side of Intimate Relationships: What's Going on Behind the Scene - Softcover

Douglas Moseley; Naomi Moseley

Softcover

ISBN 10: 1880823225 ISBN 13: 9781880823224

Publisher: Moseley Method, 2000

Synopsis

Many self-help relationship books tend to focus on an idealized vision of marriages and intimate relationships. Positive attitudes are very important in intimate relationships AND positivity alone is not enough. The truth is that long term marriages go through difficult experiences, with each partner often under-equipped in terms of self awareness and know-how. The truth is that all partners can revert to aspects of themselves that are significantly younger than their chronological ages, especially when stressed. The Shadow Side Of Intimate Relationships takes a very real look at intimate relationship and what is occurring beneath each partner's surface awareness when un-nourishing patterns of behavior begin to get locked into place. It sheds light on aspects that intimate partners seldom recognize or want to confront and takes the view that both partners must become more aware of themselves, at deeper levels, warts and all, if they want to experience an authentic, enduring love.

In their counseling practice of 25 years, Douglas and Naomi Moseley have found that couples, who are able to step away from excessive judgment and simply begin to recognize their own contributions to difficulties have much more capacity to shift unsatisfying relating patterns, like power struggling for example, and make exciting breakthroughs to more passionate and fulfilling relating. It s not easy to do this kind of work, but the Moseley s believe this kind of personal discovery is a necessary part of truly learning to give and receive love.

The Shadow Side of Intimate Relationships is written in a way that brings forward new ideas on every page and also takes the material deeper in every chapter. If you are hungry to make your relationship the best it can be, have a desire to grow as an individual, and have sufficient ego strength to take responsibility for parts of the human drama that aren't necessarily ego enhancing, you won't be sorry you picked up this book.

The Shadow Side of Intimate Relationships augments and is intended to replace an earlier book written by the Moseleys, called Dancing In the Dark . For those interested in deeper level relationship dynamics the Moseleys have two other books: Making Your Second Marriage A First Class Success, which has a lot of material pertinent to all intimate relationships and Feelings First! How to Feed Your Emotionally Starved Relationship and Bring More Passion Into Your Life

About this title

From the Inside Flap:

Why do so many couples seem to create situations which, when viewed objectively, look more like relationships of parent to child or of nonsexual friends to each other than those of fully mature men and women? Why, in spite of their wishes otherwise, do so many partners in relationship gravitate toward situations where the sub-personalities of a caring brother or sister take up more space than those of passionate adults? Why, after the romantic stage, do intimate partners have such a strong tendency to struggle for control rather than combining their energies and making sure that power and control are shared equally? At last you can find powerful answers to these penetrating questions from the pens of renowned therapists Douglas and Naomi Moseley in The Shadow Side of Intimate Relationships.

About the Author:

Douglas Moseley earned his Master's degree in Counselling Psychology at the University of British Columbia in 1982. Naomi Moseley obtained a Masters of Fine Arts at Wayne State University in 1979. Since 1988, Douglas and Naomi have co-led over 300 week-long residential retreats for individuals and couples at their center in Taos, NM. Their website is IntimacyTraining.com.

About this edition

• Publisher: Moseley Method
• Publication date: 2000
• ISBN 10: 1880823225
• ISBN 13: 9781880823224
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 296
• Editor: John Niendorff