If you are or hope to be in an intimate relationship you will want to give this book to yourself and your partner. Creating Real Relationships is an inspiring guide that offers encouragement for those seeking more meaning and healthy closeness in their relationship. A real relationship provides its partners with the opportunity for personal growth, development of the real self, and emotional and spiritual healing. The author weaves professional knowledge with personal experience to show the reader how to overcome the power of difference and shame, which may threaten the level of relationship satisfaction. This essential book offers clear explanations, practical skills, insightful background, and a map for the healing journey possible in real relationships.
One of the unique features of this work is its focus on the dynamics of difference and shame underlying what goes wrong-or what can go very right-with relationships. The dynamics of difference and shame have the power to set up the development of a false self. The false self defensively refuses to assert the real self. Overcoming the power of these dynamics is the source of transforming unhealthy wounded relationships and individuals into healthy ones. Creating Real Relationships speaks directly to improvement in the following areas:
* Assertiveness Skills * Overcoming Your Anger * Overcoming Your Partner's Anger * Overcoming Difference and Shame * Overcoming Your Anxiety * Conflict Resolution Skills * Direct Communication Skills * Listening Skills
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A real relationship brings together individuals who value their own and their partners' real selves. The real self knows and expresses authentic thoughts, feelings, and needs rather than hiding behind a false self or playing games. Partners in a real relationship seek to nurture, encourage, and support each other in ways that mutually respect individual growth and the healing of past emotional deficits. They are aware of their own individual emotional deficits and those of their partner. They learn and practice core interpersonal skills, which lead to a resolution of different needs, thoughts, and feelings.
A number of key skills for building real relationships have been discussed in this book:
* Overcoming the power of difference and letting go of the fantasy that your partner will or should change to become more like you is an important first step.
* Overcoming the power of both conscious and unconscious shame is another significant part of real relationships because of the destructive and cyclical nature of shame itself.
* Learning assertiveness skills helps partners to express their real selves to each other.
* Overcoming your own anger and that of your partner is required to prevent communication from becoming stuck or spiraling downward and becoming destructive.
* Overcoming anxiety is also important because of its potentially damaging effects on interpersonal dynamics.
* Overcoming distorted beliefs permits partners to respond to each other's thoughts, feelings, and needs in a more realistic and healthy manner.
* Learning the basic skills of conflict resolution and direct communication skills-and, perhaps most important of all, the art of real listening-provides tools and a foundation for effective relationship functioning.
Creating real relationships is work that lasts a lifetime, but it may well be the most challenging and potentially rewarding of all human endeavors.
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