Out of Control: Why Disciplining Your Child Doesn't Work and What Will - Softcover

Tsabary, Dr. Shefali

Softcover

ISBN 10: 1897238762 ISBN 13: 9781897238769

Publisher: Namaste Publishing, 2013

Synopsis

A breakthrough book in conscious parenting, from the New York Times bestselling author of The Conscious Parent

Are you tired of yelling, punishing, or using timeouts—only to watch your child repeat the same behavior? In Out of Control, clinical psychologist and parenting expert Dr. Shefali Tsabary offers a radically different approach that goes far beyond traditional discipline.

Grounded in the principles of conscious parenting, this powerful book invites parents to break free from outdated models of control and shift toward a parenting without punishment framework. Dr. Shefali reveals how attempts to "correct" or "discipline" children often ignore the real issue: our own emotional triggers and unmet expectations.

In this transformative guide, you’ll learn how to:

• Use positive discipline parenting strategies based on empathy and respect
• Build deeper connections through mindful parenting practices
• Raise emotionally healthy children who are self-aware and confident
• Empower your child through emotional intelligence instead of fear
• Let go of control and create a home rooted in mutual trust and presence

More than just a parenting book, Out of Control is a wake-up call to all caregivers ready to parent through connection, not control. Dr. Shefali helps you develop the tools to foster growth, accountability, and wholeness—both in yourself and in your child.

If you’re ready to replace old habits with conscious choices and cultivate a more peaceful, fulfilling parenting journey, this book is for you.

About this title

About the Author

Shefali Tsabary, Ph.D.

Dr. Shefali is a 3-time NYT bestselling author of 7 books on conscious parenting and mindful living. She has been hailed by Oprah as “revolutionary” and the “best child expert” she has interviewed in her career.

Dr. Shefali is the pioneer of the Conscious Parenting movement—a paradigm-shifting, transformative approach to raising ourselves and our children. In addition to her writing and teaching, she works daily with clients in her private online practice, offering personalized guidance on healing, parenting, and conscious living. She also leads the Conscious Parenting and Life Coaching Institute, where she has trained over 1,200 coaches worldwide in her method, and nurtures a thriving membership through the Conscious Circle Community, which offers monthly live workshops, course access, and a global support network. She is the host of the top-ranking podcast, Parenting & You, where she brings her teachings to life through real conversations that guide, inspire, and transform.

With over 2.5 million followers across her social media platforms, hundreds of interviews and appearances on most of the world’s foremost podcasts and forums—from Oprah’s networks, TEDx, Masters of Scale, Dalai Lama Center, Kellogg Business School, Wisdom 2.0, to innumerable conferences all over the world—Dr. Shefali’s message has transformed millions of lives.

From the Back Cover

Where did the belief come from that we need to discipline our children if they are to grow up into individuals who are well adjusted and who make something of their lives?
Out of Control reveals how the very discipline we impose to control behavior is in reality a major cause of bad behavior, disrespect for adults, and dysfunction such as bullying, hostility toward family and society, drugs, alcoholism, and teen suicide.
Dr Tsabary asserts that to parent effectively requires us to develop a deep connection with our children, so that we address the feelings that drive a child’s behavior instead of punishing. “When we tackle the reason for the behavior,” says Dr Tsabary, “it automatically changes.”
Far from a laissez-faire, “anything goes” approach, Dr Tsabary advocates for a high level of parental resolve that majors not in control, but in helping a child develop a sense of personal responsibility.
Authentic connection, in which children can be real with their parents, leads to a home in which self-discipline prevails— both for the child and the parent.
The need to “impose our will” on our children evaporates, leading to respect, ownership of one’s life, and a strong character marked by a resilience that flows naturally from within.

From the Inside Flap

Where did the belief come from that we need to discipline our children if they are to grow up into individuals who are well adjusted and who make something of their lives?
Out of Control reveals how the very discipline we impose to control behavior is in reality a major cause of bad behavior, disrespect for adults, and dysfunction such as bullying, hostility toward family and society, drugs, alcoholism, and teen suicide.
Dr Tsabary asserts that to parent effectively requires us to develop a deep connection with our children, so that we address the feelings that drive a child's behavior instead of punishing. "When we tackle the reason for the behavior," says Dr Tsabary, "it automatically changes."
Far from a laissez-faire, "anything goes" approach, Dr Tsabary advocates for a high level of parental resolve that majors not in control, but in helping a child develop a sense of personal responsibility.
Authentic connection, in which children can be real with their parents, leads to a home in which self-discipline prevails-- both for the child and the parent.
The need to "impose our will" on our children evaporates, leading to respect, ownership of one's life, and a strong character marked by a resilience that flows naturally from within.

Edition details

• Publisher: Namaste Publishing
• Publication date: 2013
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 1897238762
• ISBN 13: 9781897238769
• Binding: Paperback
• Edition number: 1
• Number of pages: 225