IRRELATIONSHIP: How we use Dysfunctional Relationships to Hide from Intimacy - Softcover

Borg, Mark B.; Brenner, Grant H; Berry, Daniel

Softcover

ISBN 10: 1942094000 ISBN 13: 9781942094005

Publisher: Central Recovery Press, 2015

Synopsis

An important and transformative guide that addresses the protective, yet dysfunctional dynamic where couples avoid genuine connection with an unsatisfying pattern of false intimacy. Drawing on their extensive clinical experience, the authors look at “song and dance” behavioral routines repeatedly performed by couples in irrelationships and delve into the most difficult emotions and actions to help readers achieve personal breakthroughs.

Written for anyone who wants to understand unhealthy patterns and how to change them, Irrelationships will help readers develop interpersonal skills, creating a new opportunity to heal and restore loving relationships.

Mark B. Borg, Jr., PhD, is a community psychologist and psychoanalyst, and a supervisor of psychotherapy at the William Alanson White Institute.

Grant H. Brenner, MD, is a board-certified psychiatrist in private practice, specializing in treating mood and anxiety disorders and the complex problems that may arise in adulthood from childhood trauma and loss.

Daniel Berry, RN, MHA, has practiced as a Registered Nurse in New York City since 1987 and has worked for almost two decades in community-based programs.

About this title

About the Author

Mark B. Borg, Jr., Ph.D. is a community psychologist and psychoanalyst, founding partner of The Community Consulting Group, and a supervisor of psychotherapy at the William Alanson White Institute. He has written extensively about the intersection of psychoanalysis and community crisis intervention. He is in private practice in New York City. Dr. Borg attended graduate school at the California School of Professional Psychology, where he earned both his MA and PhD in a dual-track program in clinical and community psychology. While there, Dr. Borg served on a four-year community empowerment project that was developed in South Central Los Angeles in the wake of the 1992 riots. Also at that time, he conducted individual and group psychotherapy at the AIDS Services Foundation in Orange County, California.

Grant H. Brenner, MD is a board-certified psychiatrist in private practice, specializing in treating mood and anxiety disorders and the complex problems that may arise in adulthood from childhood trauma and loss. He completed medical school at the University of Medicine and Dentistry of New Jersey and holds Certificates in Psychoanalysis and in Organizational Psychodynamics from the William Alanson White Institute. Dr. Brenner serves on the board of the nonprofit organization Disaster Psychiatry Outreach. He is a faculty member of the Mount Sinai Hospital and Director of the Trauma Service of the William Alanson White Institute. He is an editor of Creating Spiritual and Psychological Resilience: Integrating Care in Disaster Relief Work, and the author of several papers and book chapters related to disaster response.

Daniel Berry, RN, MHA has practiced as a Registered Nurse in New York City since 1987. He worked for almost two decades in community based programs and private care for HIV/AIDS and substance abuse populations. He is currently the Assistant Director of Nursing for Risk Management at a public hospital serving homeless and undocumented victims of street violence, drug addiction, and severe traumatic injuries. His work history includes employment at two of New York City’s major medical centers and as a visiting nurse in the homes of some of the city’s most privileged households as well as some of its most underprivileged housing projects.

Review

“Irrelationship is an invaluable user’s guide to the care and maintenance of adult relationships. It shines a light on challenges we often choose to ignore―the adoption of roles that limit us, the replaying of damaging patterns formed by our earliest experiences―and offers insightful and concrete advice on how to do the work necessary to build stronger and happier partnerships.”--Carolyn Parkhurst, Author of The Dogs of Babel and The Nobodies Album

“Irrelationship crosses the frontier of “self help” into a new area which the authors call “self-other help.” The DREAM Sequence used for recovery from irrelationship is designed for couples to work together and help them reconnect with the wonderful chemistry and emotional connections that initially drew them to one another.”--Diana Kirschner, PhD, Bestselling author of Love in 90 Days

“The road to recovery is stated in user-friendly, self-help terms―discover the unrealistic song-and-dance both partners are playing, seek to repair it (by sharing responsibility for the problem), and thereby empowering each other to make changes (alternative ways of thinking and behaving) through a mutuality of experience that permits the expression of love in all its wonderful, vital, unpredictable, even downside forms, as the way to find continued growth and collaboration for both members of the couple.”--Martin Bloom, PhD, Professor Emeritus, University of Connecticut


Irrelationship is an invaluable user’s guide to the care and maintenance of adult relationships. It shines a light on challenges we often choose to ignore the adoption of roles that limit us, the replaying of damaging patterns formed by our earliest experiences and offers insightful and concrete advice on how to do the work necessary to build stronger and happier partnerships.”--Carolyn Parkhurst, Author of The Dogs of Babel and The Nobodies Album

Irrelationship crosses the frontier of self help” into a new area which the authors call self-other help.” The DREAM Sequence used for recovery from irrelationship is designed for couples to work together and help them reconnect with the wonderful chemistry and emotional connections that initially drew them to one another.”--Diana Kirschner, PhD, Bestselling author of Love in 90 Days

The road to recovery is stated in user-friendly, self-help terms discover the unrealistic song-and-dance both partners are playing, seek to repair it (by sharing responsibility for the problem), and thereby empowering each other to make changes (alternative ways of thinking and behaving) through a mutuality of experience that permits the expression of love in all its wonderful, vital, unpredictable, even downside forms, as the way to find continued growth and collaboration for both members of the couple.”--Martin Bloom, PhD, Professor Emeritus, University of Connecticut

Edition details

• Publisher: Central Recovery Press
• Publication date: 2015
• ISBN 10: 1942094000
• ISBN 13: 9781942094005
• Binding: Paperback
• Language: English
• Number of pages: 288