When I Do Relationships So Right How Do They Go So Wrong: Using Emotional Maturity to Transform Your Mind, Your Relationships, and the Generations to Come - Softcover

Terrell, Dana Elken

Softcover

ISBN 10: 194871101X ISBN 13: 9781948711012

Publisher: Comprehensive Therapy Approach, Inc., 2018

Synopsis

How can you possibly be successful in life if you're not successful with your relationships?

How do rewarding relationships turn into relationship problems?

Have you ever felt no matter what you do to make things right, you end up feeling the same pain, disappointment, and despair of relationships gone bad?

How do you let people know you just want to get along? How do you stop them from always derailing your best efforts? How do you help them stop judging you incorrectly?
Whether it's family, friends, coworkers, neighbors, business partners, fellow students, teachers--or any other relationship--this book will help you uncover the hidden habits and patterns that are silently damaging your relationships.

Once you recognize the patterns and understand how they work, you can replace them with new ways that change all the rules.

Self-help secrets you will gain from this book:

• Identify the four common patterns society taught you that are silently derailing your interpersonal relations.
• Adopt four ways to address these patterns to turn your relationships back into rewarding ones.
• Uncover the key reason your friends, loved ones, and associates react in confusing ways to your good intentions and learn how to heal the problem.
• Learn new ways to approach difficult situations you previously considered insurmountable.
• Relate to stories of others and apply them to your own life.
• Stop the emotional pain of taking things personally when they're not.
• Use emotional maturity to create miraculous relationship improvements.
• Improve your communication & social skills and interact confidently in all situations.
• Gain the conflict-resolution skills you need to deal with unexpected challenges.
• Become best friends with yourself by understanding your values, principles, feelings, needs, and boundaries.
• Grow a life-long support system you can count on at any time.
• Apply all this new knowledge to any type of relationship.
• Become a positive leader in your network, creating mutually-supportive friends based on all you've learned.

Relationship books are plentiful, but this one is different. You need real answers for the mysteries of relationships. You need to get to the heart of what's not working so you can quickly change it and succeed. This book reveals unique answers, proven to work, that are not commonly found elsewhere.

Are you ready to turn your rocky relationships into rewarding ones? If you want to turn your life and your relationships around, don't wait any longer. Take the first step and read this book today.

ENDORSEMENT

"Books on improving relationships abound but few have the depth of consistent wisdom that is found on the pages of this book. Dana Terrell has achieved this through her applied knowledge of Bowen theory. She has made this theory her own with her unique integration with EMDR [iBE]. This makes for a valuable book for anyone who cares about their relationship health -- and let's face it, there is no way to improved wellbeing without finding ways to do our relationships better."

Jenny Brown, PhD
Growing Yourself Up: How to bring your best to all of life's relationships

About this title

About the Author

Dana Elken Terrell, LCSW, EAC has been practicing Bowen family systems theory for nearly forty years, finding it a reliable way to gain emotional maturity personally and in relationships. For twenty years she has specialized in EMDR therapy, a way to rapidly boost emotional and mental Health. She's integrated the two approaches since 1997. This has led her to train other EMDR therapists in her integrative Bowen and EMDR (iBE) Therapy since 2009. She's researched the results and found that people can make more improvements in their emotional maturity in months than Bowen thought possible in a lifetime. This has encouraged her to continue research, and develop a group protocol in 2016. Dana has presented on her iBE protocol at conferences across the nation. A therapist who specializes in both approaches said, "iBE is like Bowen on steroids!"

From the Back Cover

HOW THIS BOOK WILL TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE

Drawing from more than 35 years' experience as a therapist, author Dana Terrell, LCSW, EAC, shares her discoveries while helping hundreds of clients grow from feeling blamed, baffled, ignored, ganged-up on, one-upped, or let down by their loved ones, to feeling mutually-rewarded, fulfilled, and loved in their new emotionally-mature, satisfying, two-way, equal relationships.

Through Terrell's case study examples and detailed explanations, you can learn the principles and skills she teaches in her revolutionary iBE (integrated Bowen and EMDR) therapy approach to untangle your relationship in record time and begin anew.

CLIENT BREAKTHROUGHS

Emily: "Since my iBE work with you, I have joy! My husband hasn't seen joy in me for a long time!

Paul (in his 70s): I can see the changes happening in my daughter through her iBE work with you, so I feel you can help me, too."

Kyle: "I've made more progress with you in 3 months than in 20 years of talk therapy."

Jan: "I just learned about 'I' positions and used one with a sarcastic family member. Normally I would've let it bother me and avoided family events. Instead, I asked him to stop, gave him a reason, stood my ground, and like magic, there is no more issue. Seems like an easy thing, but not to someone who is used to just letting things be."

Sandra: (seeing her overfunctioning pattern) "The more I gave, the more they took."

Dana Terrell, LCSW, EAC has been practicing Bowen family systems theory since 1979, and EMDR therapy since 1997. She's been training EMDR therapists in her iBE protocols since 2009, and was a presenter at the 2014 and 2017 EMDR International Association Conferences.

She lives, practices and writes in San Diego, CA, and gives workshops and presentations nationwide.

Edition details

• Publisher: Comprehensive Therapy Approach, Inc.
• Publication date: 2018
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 194871101X
• ISBN 13: 9781948711012
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 314