Sex by Committee: Subtitle: How Rabbis, Priests, Judges and Doctors Spent 2,000 Years Telling Couples How Often to Do It, and What Actually Helps When Two People Want It at Different Times - Softcover

Sand, J. M.

Softcover

ISBN 13: 9798177252025

Publisher: Independently published, 2026

Synopsis

Laborers: twice a week. Camel drivers: once a month. Sailors: every six months.

That was the official schedule, written down by rabbis around 200 CE. They weren't the last to weigh in. For two thousand years, everyone has had an opinion about how often couples should have sex. Priests declared it a debt. French judges put husbands on trial. Victorian doctors decided most women barely felt desire. Modern psychiatry gave the problem a diagnosis, and a drug company gave it a pill.

None of them fixed it. About one in four people say they and their partner want sex at different rates, and most of them feel completely alone with it.

Sex by Committee is a funny, fact-checked history of the world's oldest bedroom argument, and a practical guide to what modern science says actually helps:

• Why desire drifts apart, from responsive desire to dishes, diapers and hormones
• What it feels like from each side of the bed, with no villains and no blame
• How to talk about it without a fight, rebuild touch without pressure, and why scheduling isn't the passion-killer you think
• The honest odds on pills, doctors and therapists
• An eight-week plan for couples, plus a version for when only one partner is ready

Written to be read together, or handed across the kitchen table without starting an argument.

Edition details

• Publisher: Independently published
• Publication date: 2026
• Language: English
• ISBN 13: 9798177252025
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 211