If Only: A Gentle Guide to Letting Go of the Past, Releasing Regret, and Finally Moving On (The Overthinker’s Series) - Softcover

Ellison, Maya

Softcover

ISBN 13: 9798189584640

Publisher: Independently published, 2026

Synopsis

The past won’t stay in the past. You replay the mistake, the missed chance, the thing you can’t undo — and underneath it all runs the same quiet refrain: if only. If you long to stop living in the rear-view mirror, this book is for you.

You go over what happened again and again, as though this time you might find a different ending. You ache over what could have been — the path not taken, the time you feel you wasted, the life you’d have if only you’d chosen differently. You carry old hurts and old regrets you can’t seem to set down. Here is the hard, freeing truth at the heart of this book: the past cannot be changed — and what cannot be changed need not be carried.

If Only is a warm, practical, gentle guide for the person stuck in the past — haunted by regret, replaying old mistakes, drowning in what-ifs. No mysticism, no dwelling in trauma, no pretending it didn’t matter — just grounded tools, drawn from cognitive behavioural principles and self-compassion, that change your relationship with the past so it becomes something you learn from rather than something that holds you captive.

Inside, you’ll learn how to:

• Tell the difference between useful reflection and the rumination that keeps you stuck
• Break the loop of replaying what you cannot change
• Loosen the grip of regret and ‘if only’ thinking
• Accept what’s done — without pretending it was okay
• Forgive yourself for past mistakes, and let go of old hurts others caused
• Grieve what could have been, so you can finally release it
• Take the lesson and set down the rest — letting the past be a teacher, not a jailer
• Come home to the present, where your life is actually happening

It also includes a pocket toolkit, a reflect-don’t-ruminate worksheet, real-life scenarios, and a letting-go reset for the moments the past pulls you back.

You are not your history, and who you were is not your destiny. The past is over — your life is not.

Stop living in the rear-view mirror. Scroll up and grab your copy — your life is happening now, and it is waiting for you to come home to it.

Edition details

• Publisher: Independently published
• Publication date: 2026
• Language: English
• ISBN 13: 9798189584640
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 83