Ben and Ann Wilson help couples navigate the painful journey through an affair toward reconciliation and a stronger marriage. They help couples out of their experience as licensed professional counselors, and out of their own story of unfaithfulness, betrayal, and redemption. This book will:
- Help you heal your broken hearts
- Offer hope in your pain and sorrow
- Give you room to process your anger
- Guide you in rebuilding trust
- Assist in understanding why you did what you didn't want to do
- Free you from the chains of shame and guilt
- Provide guidance to connect on all levels of intimacy
"Stories of marital infidelity are commonplace, while stories of restored marriages are precious and few. In this extraordinary book, Ben and Ann Wilson weave their story of broken marriage vows and broken hearts into a tapestry of beauty, redemption, and restoration. From page one through the last chapter you'll encounter refreshing honesty, compelling hope, and healing direction that can save and transform your marriage. This book is so powerful I'm making sure to keep an entire case at my office to put in the hands of every couple I come across."- Michael John Cusick, author of Surfing for God: Discovering the Divine Desire Beneath Sexual Struggle & President, Restoring the Soul
"Betrayed and Betrayer is a journey through pain, deep soul searching and raw honesty. Ben and Ann open the door and generously let us in. This is a book for those seeking healing from an affair - but it is more than that. It is a journey for all who seek deeper intimacy and honesty in their marriage." - Pamela Pedrow, Licensed Professional Counselor and Speaker
Ben and Ann Wilson are Licensed Professional Counselors with twenty years of experience leading conferences, intensives and counseling individuals and couples. They've spoken internationally and appeared on television shows including Good Morning America. Their blog at marriagesrestored.com has received over one million hits. Ben is a former Care Ministry Pastor of 12 years and Ann counseled on church staff for 4 years. Both are thankful for God's unending mercies in their marriage.
- If you are reading this, either you or someone you love has a life in turmoil due to an affair. Our book can help guide you through the chaos.
- On our wedding day, we never imagined infidelity would infiltrate our marriage, but it did. We realized that we are all capable of it.
- It was, quite simply, the most painful experience of our lives. For months, every morning we woke up to a pain filled nightmare. We wondered if that pain would ever end.
- But it did end. It took courage, risk, perseverance we didn't know we had, unblinking honesty, and hope. We didn't go back to the old marriage. We developed a new, better one and we continue to keep growing.
- We are Christian and share our faith openly. We wrestled mightily with God during our recovery. Are You good? Can You heal this pain? Do You want us anymore? We found the answer to these questions is yes, yes, yes. Our wrestling led to a deeper faith, not one that settled for pat answers.
- This book is honest and gritty. We use language not usually associated with church on Sunday. We are as vulnerable as we can be with our emotions as we journey through the mess.
- This book is a series of 90 reflections. It is a mix of memoir, insight, instruction, compassion and grace.
- We've been told the format works to just pick up the book for 5-10 minutes and read a piece. If you're not really a reader, this format can be beneficial.
To help you navigate your way, we address the following topics:
- betrayal
- grief
- shame
- rebuilding trust
- gender
- family of origin impact
- intimacy--spiritual, emotional, sexual, non-sexual touch, recreational
- grace
- forgiveness
- practical keys
- We went through it. Our suffering and healing made us stronger.
- For twenty years we've been helping other couples make it through. It may not feel like it now, but a new, vibrant, fun marriage filled with gratitude is out in front of you. We will guide you there.
