A Better Normal: Your Guide to Rediscovering Intimacy After Cancer

“This book has been a life saver. I know my quality of life is better. Every cancer patient should be gifted this book” S. Cancer survivor.
"Omg!!!! Your book changed my life and is saving my relationship! Thank you so much for making me feel like a woman again!!!!". P.M Cancer survivor.
“This book is so wonderfully written and full of such helpful information I cannot recommend it highly enough, I would give it 6 stars if I could! .” K.V, cancer carer.

Changes in sexuality from cancer treatments is one of the most common challenges people face, yet is one of the most under-addressed. Cancer can impact all aspects of our sex and intimate lives, so why is no one talking about sex and cancer?

If you’ve received a cancer diagnosis, or are the loved one of someone who has, this book is for you. A Better Normal offers support and solutions to recover and increase connection, intimacy, sexuality and sex, during and after treatments. Simply put, this is the #1 'sex and cancer' manual.

Jam-packed with practical ways and easy-to-do strategies for how to improve things like; low libido, changes in body image and body confidence, when things are ‘dry & sore’, dating, the more direct side-effects treatments can have on our body and ways to heal and work around them like pain, fatigue, when sex hurts, low sex-drive and so, so much more. This book is a must-have for anyone impacted by cancer who may need support, because we all deserve love and connection.

Written by a sexuality clinician and educator, who's also had cancer, this book is filled with practical information (and quite a few laughs) so you can reconnect with yourself and/or a partner, from someone who’s literally been there.

Divided into easy-to-read sections, Devèze is no fluff and no fuss, with down to Earth humour mixed in with a dash of neuroscience. A Better Normal offers a positive path to your intimacy recovery, so what you thought was sexually impossible, becomes possible.

Australian of the Year 2023 nominee, Tess Devèze is an occupational therapist (OT) having completed their bachelor degree in Melbourne Australia, founding ConnectAble Therapies, a community sexuality OT and sexology clinic, focussing on sexuality and intimacy for people with neurological conditions, cancer, chronic illness and disability. They have also completed certification and trainings via the Institute of Somatic Sexology. Alongside being a sexuality OT, Tess is also a sexuality educator and workshop facilitator, and has facilitated and educated thousands of people in the topics of communication, consent, sexuality, pleasure and relationship dynamics for nearing a decade. Tess founded the global online initiative 'Intimacy and Cancer', an online support space for people of all cancers and genders to access sexual support. As a non-binary, queer, disabled person living with cancer, their work is inclusive and advocates for sexual rights for disabled, neurodiverse, gender queer/diverse and LGBTQIA+, communities, which they proudly belong to.Tess was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer at the age of 36 and is still undergoing treatments. Find them at www.connectabletherapies.com