You Could Be Having Better Sex: The Definitive Guide to a Happier, Healthier, and Hotter Sex Life

You want—and deserve—better sex. Dr. Nicole McNichols tells you how.

You know sex matters—to your health, your happiness, and your relationships. You know it’s supposed to be fun, connecting, and fulfilling. But maybe you’re not having as much of it as you’d like. Or it feels routine, awkward, or disconnected. Maybe you’re unsure what you want, how your body works, or how to ask for more. Or maybe you’re doing “everything right” and still wondering: Is this really all there is?

You’re not broken—and you’re not alone.

Drawing on the latest research, candid real-world insights, and years of teaching the nation’s most popular human sexuality course, Dr. Nicole McNichols dismantles the myths and taboos that hold you back and replaces them with practical tools and insight that spark real transformation. The result is a comprehensive, shame-free framework for understanding desire, building confidence, and creating deeper intimacy.

You Could Be Having Better Sex will inform, empower, and inspire you to:

- Reignite desire in a long-term relationship
- Navigate hookup culture without going insane
- Add novelty without losing your sense of self
- Explore what kinds of touch bring you the most pleasure
- Get practical tools for asking for what you want—sexually and otherwise

And much more!

Empowering and enlightening, You Could Be Having Better Sex is your ultimate guide to a more passionate, authentic, and deeply connected sex life.

Dr. Nicole McNichols is an internationally renowned human sexuality professor, author, and speaker whose groundbreaking course, The Diversity of Human Sexuality, is the most popular in the history of the University of Washington, enrolling over 4,000 students annually. She writes frequently for various publications including The Seattle Times and The Conversation, and she has a regular blog for Psychology Today. She is also the coauthor of the textbook Human Sexuality in a Diverse Society and the TEDx Talk “Students on Top: A Vision for 21st Century Sex Education.” Dr. Nicole McNichols received her undergraduate degree from Cornell University and completed her master’s in psychology at NYU and PhD in social psychology at the University of Washington. She currently lives in the Seattle area with her husband and three children. Follow her on Instagram and TikTok @Nicole_TheSexProfessor.