Beyond Love Trauma (Paperback or Softback)

Discover the Three Intimacies and How They Work Together.

So you’re truly over your divorce? You’ve fought the furies, you’ve escaped that feeling of being kept in limbo, you’ve learned to live alone, you have been through what we call Love Trauma. Now you’re ready for Beyond Love Trauma. In this new second book of Wagner’s Love Trauma series, he insists on the maxim “Know Thyself.” If you’re ready to move into a new relationship, this is your mantra. You can’t become the ultimate “catch” if you don’t know yourself.

Perhaps the most useful part of Beyond Love Trauma is Wagner’s description of the three intimacies:

•sexual,

•intellectual, and

•emotional.

As Wagner argues, all three are necessary for a romance to achieve, finally, what he describes as the ultimate relationship, one of “erotic love.”

To be afraid to be alone is not a good reason to marry. And marriage—or any romantic relationship—is not a place to think “What’s in it for me?” A committed marriage requires an attitude of “How can we pursue a long-term goal?” what Wagner calls a “life commitment.”

From an in-depth discussion on places to meet others to attacking the “ideal” that divorcees set up for themselves, the second book takes a hard look at the ways in which men and women sabotage their efforts to “get back into the game.”

He urges divorcees to take their time moving forward, establish trust and respect, before leaping into marriage or another relationship. Beyond Love Trauma is a book which will set you free to negotiate the effects of Love Trauma.

Award:2019 International Book Awards - Health: Psychology/Mental Health – Finalist

Paul A. Wagner, B.S. Political Science and economics (double major), M.A. (philosophy), M. Ed. (Higher Education Administration), Ph.D. (Philosophy).Dr. Wagner has always been very active in civic and charitable affairs. Beginning in Columbia, Missouri, he served as Vice Chair of the City's Human Rights Commission. In Houston, Texas, he has served on numerous Board of Directors including the Houston Marathon, Leadership Houston, The Houston Volunteer Center, The Bay Area Symphony Society, Bay Oaks School, and numerous committees in organizations such as the American Cancer Society, the Society for Prevention of Cruelty to Animals, Second Baptist's Pastor Prayer Team, the Linda Lorelle Scholarship Foundation, and the Sparacino Dance Company. He has done consulting in strategic planning and management practice with a number of corporations, hospitals, and universities, such as The Houston Chronicle, M.D. Anderson Hospital Volunteer Division, and the University of San Francisco. He has also held a number of senior-level positions in scholarly organizations. He was named an Outstanding Young Man while in Columbia, Missouri, and has been awarded inclusion in the following since then: Who's Who in America, Who's Who in the World, Who's Who in Education, Who's Who among America's Teachers, to name but a few. He has taught at universities from coast to coast and from the northern Midwest to the South. He has taught from undergraduate to doctoral students. At the university level, he has taught in the following areas: philosophy, psychology, political science, education, cognitive science, economics, "Development of the Sciences," management theory (MBA program), organizational behavior, and applied ethics in a course for doctoral students in two different doctoral-granting institutions. One course was titled "Ethics, Values and Responsibilities" and the other, "Ethics of Administrative Leadership."For thirteen years he emceed and was an expert commentator several times each year for public television. In addition to living in Houston for forty years, he also had a small ranch out near Brenham, Texas. He has run over 50,000 miles in his life according to running journals he has kept since he was 28. He has over 160 publications listed on Google Scholar including nine previous books. He is a member of a number of professional organizations including the American Philosophical Association, the Evangelical Philosophical Society, the American Psychological Association, the American Association of Public Administrators, and the Association of Practical and Professional Ethics. Finally, he was a founding member of the Texas State Ethics Commission and the LBJ School of Public Affairs, University of Texas annual Ethics workshop for senior State Officials in the 1990s. To top everything off, he was an altar boy from 11 - 13 years old at St. Barbara's Church in the suburbs of Chicago.