Blessed Is the Day We Got It Wrong: A Guide to Marriage Renewal

With a razor-sharp wit and an engaging style, international bestselling author Costanza Miriano delivers a practical, profound, sometimes hilarious exposition on how not just to survive in marriage but to thrive in it. Sharing advice from lessons she has learned in her own marriage and spiritual journey, Miriano playfully and powerfully discloses what to do when experiencing an amalgam of difficulties, things men and women desire in a relationship, and how to stop trying to change your spouse because it’s in the struggle that we become holy. 

Using real-life stories and popular references to sports, beauty, and culture, Miriano artfully constructs a treatise, bursting with wisdom, that you won’t be able to put down. You will discover the ten “maintenance rules” for marriage, how to keep your flame of love aglow, what to do when your spouse is going through a challenging time, and how to endure crises in your relationship. With her incisive humor, Miriano will keep you laughing out loud as you learn life-changing truths on diverse topics, including:

• How experiencing the transforming power of the Cross is the path to joy in your family
• Prayer as the only true aphrodisiac: how intimacy with God increases your love for your spouse
• Deploying distraction tactics: keys for replacing accusatory thoughts toward your spouse
• Attaining superhuman strength: advice on giving your powerlessness to God and building virtue
• Four stumbling blocks to conversion: overcome them and grow in communion with your spouse
• Presenting a unified front: anchor points to cling to when you doubt yourself about child-rearing

As you journey with Miriano through the nitty-gritty of spousal relationships, she will guide you in keeping the faith in marriage and your eyes fixed on the One who fulfills. You will discover how the snags in marriage actually present solutions and why pushing on to remain afloat when times are rough helps you grow in union with Christ.


Costanza Miriano is a wife and mother of four children. She works as a journalist for Rai (Italian public television), is a freelance writer on education and relationships, and has worked with the Pontifical Council for the Laity. She has a blog that has had more than three million readers in two years, and she has written four books, including Marry Him and Be Submissive and Marry Her and Die for Her, which have sold around seventy thousand copies in Italy and have been translated into Spanish, French, Portuguese, Polish Slovenian, and now English.