Body and Soul : Toward a Radical Intersubjectivity in Psychotherapy

Therapy is a dialogue

The first two chapters of this small book are an inquiry into the nature of psychotherapy, an asymmetric dialogue, where one person, the therapist, literally attends to another. Weaving together overlapping perspectives from Emmanuel Levinas, Martin Heidegger, Maurice Merleau-Ponty and Martin Buber, Amdur asserts that the greatest gifts of therapy arise from a fundamental estrangement from each other. The realization of this unbridgeable distance, however close we may be, is a profound shock that gives birth to a genuine relationship, comprised of two beings, two bodies, not merging into one. It is the maintenance of separation that allows, in every dialogue, the birth of something new and unique in the world. 

The chapters that follow bring these rarified notions to earth, through accounts of two therapeutic relationships: one, with an achingly melancholic man, so wounded that improvement was meaningless to him; the second, with a man struggling with anguish, his psychosis torturing him into a rage, in which others must die to pay for what he believed was done to him. 

Ellis Amdur here strips psychotherapy of all technique and jargon. He asserts that it must be, at core, a willingness to wrestle with the unanswerable questions--through which two beings can engage in therapeutic dialogue and change can occur:

• What of my death?
  
• What of yours?
  
• What of my life?
  
• What of yours?

This book is an unusual combination of lyric philosophical writing and harsh humanity, reeking, at times, of flesh and pain, yet finding, at other moments, traces of beauty, kindness, even love. There are no cures here, because some wounds may never heal. Nonetheless, a person’s integrity and unassailable dignity is to be found in stark moments where two people receive the ultimate in human gifts: the realization that we are always two, not one, and therefore, never alone.

Ellis Amdur grew up in Pittsburgh, PA. After graduating from Yale University, he moved to Japan for the purpose of studying East Asian martial arts, acquiring teaching licenses in two archaic Japanese martial traditions. He lived in Japan for 13 years, before moving to Seattle, Wash., where he raised two sons. After a number of years, working for various community mental health facilities in their emergency services departments, Amdur founded a company called Edgework, through which he offers psychotherapy, consultation and training concerned with people 'on the edge' of suicide, violence, or severe character disorder. This work was first published in different form as a 'reflection paper' towards graduation from the Masters Program in Existential Phenomenological Psychology at Seattle University. It represents the philosophical substrate that informs all his work. Amdur has published a number of other books in ad- dition to this one, as well as several instructional DVDs. They include books on the de-escalation of aggression as well as one for the training of hostage negotiators, books on the nature and history of traditional Japanese martial arts and several works of fiction.