Breaking the Code of Codependence : Becoming Conscious Through the Transpersonal

Breaking The Code of Codependence empowers the reader by weaving a tapestry that reveals the nature of dysfunctional relationships, why they develop, and what we can do to create satisfying and spirit-filled relationships. We see that codependency is not a disease, but a belief system, script, or personal mythology in need of revision. Examination of gender expectations, family factors, cultural prescriptions, societal layering, power inequities, and patriarchy make certain groups of people more at-risk for developing codependent behavior. Breaking the Code of Codependence shakes us awake to see that we have stifled our inner self in compensation for our need for love. The search for love is replaced by the search for validation and approval in codependence, thus this journey may be one of discovery and rediscovery. We discover how adherence to gender role expectations creates dysfunctional dynamics in relationships and keeps us from discovering and expressing our true Self.

The development of codependency is but a script, or personal mythology that needs to be updated. We learn that evolved consciousness is more compassionate and less judgmental, helping us to stay in the open plane of possibilities instead resorting to reactionary patterns of behavior. If we want to be happier and less frustrated, we are called to take the path of the hero and heroine where we champion our cause to awaken the Self. We have to be willing to "let go" and just be. Awakening to our potential requires opening up to unknown regions of our emotions, memories and psyche without retreating to safer, more familiar strategies. As a tradition, marriage, its rites, rituals, and expected gender role splitting need revision. As couples seek intimacy, each can do so by determining which stories they are bringing to the relationship. A true spiritual partnership can be forged that encourages growth, intimacy, passion, individuality, love, care and commitment.