The Calm Assertiveness Method (Paperback)

Do you struggle to speak up without feeling tense, guilty, or afraid of conflict? Do you stay quiet at work, in relationships, or with family even when something matters to you? This book shows you how to be assertive without being aggressive, cold, or fake.

The Calm Assertiveness Method takes a different approach to assertiveness training. Instead of scripts or power moves, it works with how your brain and nervous system respond under pressure. You'll learn why your body freezes, people-pleases, or shuts down-and how to change that response step by step. Through real stories, clear examples, and simple exercises, you'll see how calm assertiveness becomes a daily skill, not a personality trait.

Imagine speaking clearly at work without fear. Setting boundaries without long explanations. Handling criticism without spiraling. Saying no without guilt. This book helps you build confidence from the inside out, using tools grounded in psychology, neuroscience, and real life practice. You won't need to force confidence. You'll feel steady, present, and respected-because you respect yourself.

If you want practical assertiveness skills that actually stick, this book is for you. Start reading today and learn how to communicate with clarity, calm, and self-trust.

Lukas CJ Engelbrecht was born on 7 November 1956 in Kroonstad, Orange Free State, South Africa. In his 12 years at school he changes school nine times. After school he joined the South African Police Services and had a variety of jobs since.
He started writing poetry in 1982. Since then he wrote 802(2016) poems. He wrote a couple of articles and eBooks.
He adopted the name "Grandpa" on Pinterest.
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