He's Clean and Sober...So Where's My Happily Ever After?: A Guide to Seeing, Naming, and Healing From Post-Addiction Abuse

He’s Clean and Sober… So Where’s My Happily Ever After?
He’s sober. You’re still hurting. Now what?

For countless Christian women, the moment their husband achieves sobriety is supposed to mark the beginning of a “happily ever after.” But instead of healing, they find themselves trapped in a painful, confusing reality: the addiction may be gone, yet the patterns of abuse, control, and spiritual harm remain.

In He’s Clean and Sober… So Where’s My Happily Ever After?, Cherri Raws Freeman offers a compassionate, faith-centered guide to help women recognize the dynamics of post-addiction abuse, name the destructive patterns, and begin to heal—no matter where they are in their journey.

Drawing on biblical wisdom and practical tools, this book will help you:
• Recognize coercive control, emotional abuse, and false repentance
• Break free from guilt, shame, and the pressure to “fix” the marriage
• Set healthy, Christ-centered boundaries
• Reclaim your identity as a beloved daughter of God
• Navigate the road to healing with courage and grace

If you’ve been asking, “Why doesn’t sobriety feel like a miracle for us?” you are not alone. This book will meet you with truth, hope, and the gentle reminder that God sees you, loves you, and has not abandoned your story.

“Reading Cherri’s book felt like someone finally saw me. Her words bring clarity, compassion, and hope.”
— Anne

“A masterclass in how the Church can support survivors of post-addiction abuse.”
— Dr. James Ayers, PhD, Professor Emeritus, Lancaster Bible College

About the AuthorCherri Raws Freeman grew up at America's Keswick, a Christian conference and addiction recovery center founded by her great-grandfather. With deep roots in ministry and a passion for walking alongside the hurting, Cherri has dedicated her life to helping others find hope and healing in Christ.She holds a B.S. in Biology from Wheaton College and worked for many years in both the medical field and science education. She is a certified Life Coach, a Board-Certified Master Mental Health Coach, a certified Abuse Advocate, and a certified Exchanged Life Counselor and Addiction Recovery Coach through Grace Fellowship International.In 2013, Cherri founded Love Them to Life, a ministry offering help and hope to those with addicted loved ones-born out of her personal journey as a mother of two children in addiction. She is also the author of Beside Still Waters: Discovering Peace in the Midst of Your Child's Addiction and Set Free: Finding Truth and Hope When a Loved One is Addicted.Her most recent work flows from her experience in a destructive marriage that opened her eyes to the often-overlooked intersection of addiction and abuse. Cherri now counsels and coaches through Grace Fellowship International and continues to support women through Love Them to Life, including a free online weekly support group for women who have loved ones in addiction. Cherri is also available to speak to churches and groups. You can learn more or get in touch at www.lovethemtolife.com or email lovethemtolife@gmail.com.