The process of coming out can be complicated for anyone, but for Asians it can be especially difficult. Cultural pressures like “filial piety,” family honour, saving face, parental shame, the importance of family lineage/dynasty, and the expectation to conform to “traditional” norms and values can be huge obstacles in the coming out process.
"Coming Out Asian" addresses each of these. It is for people who are curious about coming out, who are thinking about coming out, in the process of coming out or actively making a plan to come out. It is about identifying blocks — within ourselves, our families and society — and working through each of them. It is a book to help with self-reflection and how to know if you’re ready to come out, how to know if others are ready for you to come out to them, and how to create a safe plan for each. Most importantly, this book is an exercise in learning to love ourselves, to build an authentic life and to celebrate who we truly are and were born to be. It will prepare you to navigate the often-difficult road to authenticity.
Coming out is not a one-time event; rather, it’s a process, one that repeats itself with each person we come out to. It is a challenging, complex, and deeply personal decision to make, one that takes courage and proper planning to execute. It must be done on your terms and only when you are sure you’re ready.
So, congratulations on picking up this book. Life is better lived openly and authentically without hiding in the shadows. Ask almost anyone who has come out and they will tell you how much better their life is after doing so.
Let’s get started!