How You Can Command Respect and Be Loved for It: Knowledge and Skills to Change Your Life (Paperback or Softback)

This is a book looking at behaviours which raise our 'social status' (sometimes called 'Demonstrations of High Value, abbreviated to DHV's), and looking at things we may be unknowingly doing to lower our social status (Demonstrations of Low Value, abbreviated to DLV).
Essentially this is a workbook to raise your social status, loaded with exercises, tips, and social intelligence to this effect. For instance, if you want to speak to a busy person you might feel the desire to rush your words and do things which put you in a lower status relative to them. There are ways to turn this around by making them curious to hear what you have to say.  This way they will suddenly find time to speak to you, and their curiosity will put YOU in the higher status position. This  ' being busy' phenomena  can also be used to YOUR advantage.
People may bully you using presuppositions. These can be used by others to form nasty put downs which are hard to quickly respond to; for example 'You know you can't do that' or 'do you realize you are letting the team down'. This book has many examples and exercises to enable you to quickly identify and effectively respond to these in future.
In a conversation with a 'high status' person, you probably feel the desire to agree with what they are saying, which you know will increase rapport. If you disagree with something they say, you are showing them that you can think for yourself, and raising an alternative view may also generate more conversation. Agreement is compliance, which generates rapport, disagreement generates status and often generates attraction. Carefully judged balance is essential here!
This knowledge will change your life for the better, for ever.


             IMPORTANT UPDATE: I have now published a bigger and better item - Get it: Understand it: Get ahead. This new book is a far better production, and it contains about three times the amount of useful material as 'Command Respect', with a lot of new material. Additionally, the tables have appeared correctly, and the more complicated principles carried over from 'Command Respect' have been more clearly explained, being further developed with many additional exercises.

Going through the self-improvement library, I realised that even though personal `status' was often discussed, what seemed to be missing was a book which addressed the issue head on. I decided to fill this gap, and here is the missing book. This book tells you, the reader, HOW you can raise your status, as well as revealing exactly what other people might be doing in an attempt to raise their own status by lowering yours. When you know what is happening and how best to respond, you can hold on to or even gain status. Often recognition of these situations in itself is enough to create immunity, and knowing how to respond if appropriate (sometimes it's more powerful not to respond!) will also give the reader more overall confidence. The reader might also recognise certain things they are doing without knowing which are giving away their status, and they will feel empowered as they learn how to hold and increase their status instead.

I feel a little embarrassed but obliged to tell you that the book isn't of the quality I had originally wished for, and in the process of publication some of the tables seem to have become a bit mixed up. Having said this, the text is more or less how it was intended, and I feel that the reader will find this book a great read, and will enjoy reading lots of useful and completely practical information from many sources. I hope that this knowledge will be used responsibly to good and life-enhancing effect by the reader to increase their `status', and to make them a more respected , more sought after and more popular person.

IMPORTANT UPDATE: I have now published a bigger and better item - Get it: Understand it: Get ahead. This new book is a far better production, and it contains about three times the amount of useful material as 'Command Respect', with a lot of new material. Additionally, the tables have appeared correctly, and the more complicated principles carried over from 'Command Respect' have been more clearly explained, being further developed with many additional exercises. JT