Find out why your relationships get mired in conflicts, power struggles, or distancing rather than providing the love and caring you want? Conflict, Care, and Love will help you understand your problematic relationship patterns and those of your current or past partners. For example, are you Dependent, People-Pleasing, or Conflict-Avoiding? Is your partner Controlling, Passive-Aggressive, or Distancing? The book will also help you discover how to cultivate the healthy capacities that make relationships work, for example, Self-Support, Assertiveness, Intimacy, and Caring.
Dr. Jay Earley has an extraordinary ability to think systemically and to write accessibly. In Conflict, Care, and Love, he translates 40 years of witnessing clients' struggles to navigate through conflict and develop intimacy into a comprehensive map for personal transformation. This book is a clear, straight-forward approach to identifying the childhood origins of problematic patterns, healing them, and replacing them with new-found strengths such as intimacy, self-support, good communication, assertiveness, cooperation, and self-care. This book can be used as a stand-alone resource for personal growth or as a companion to Earley's web-based Self Therapy Journey, a groundbreaking approach to self-help that combines his systematic approach to self-healing with cutting-edge web technology.
~ Dr. Tom Burdenski, Licensed Psychologist, Professor of Counseling Psychology
Conflict, Care, and Love is a goldmine of simple yet rich information to help you understand your own and others' interpersonal patterns. Studying the four most important dimensions--intimacy, conflict, power, and care--will assist you in identifying those capacities you need to develop to manage conflict and enhance your connections. Working through this book will help you to find more understanding, balance, and ease in your relationships. It will be of value in a personal, coaching, or therapy setting.
-- Joan Curran, RGN, BSc Hons Psych, Human Potential Coach
It's not rocket science to see that we are confused about how to make interpersonal relationships work, especially in our fast-paced, high-tech, low-interaction society. How do we balance all that we have to do in life and healthy balanced relationships too? I found Conflict, Care, and Love to be very helpful in identifying patterns that cause us pain on either end of a spectrum and finding a healthy balance. I will be using this book with myself and my clients.
-- Deborah Chelette-Wilson, MHR, LPC, NCC
