Dating with Discernment: 12 Questions to Make a Lasting Marriage

A fresh, biblical paradigm for choosing a spouse.

“This is a brilliant book!”
— Rosaria Butterfield, Author, The Gospel Comes with a House Key

“Provocative and profoundly insightful advice.”
— Dr. Joel R. Beeke, President, Puritan Reformed Theological Seminary, Grand Rapids, Michigan

Done with dating? Don’t know where to start? Wondering if your date is the one to marry?

Pastor-scholar Sam Andreades brings single Christians in that vulnerable life moment the practical, theological help to make the dangerous decision confidently. Bringing the Bible’s wisdom on relationships to bear on the dating scene, he helps you lay a foundation for a love that lasts.

This book will teach you how to:

• Confidently say good-bye to ill-suited suitors.

• Deepen your relationship with God as you date.

• Find, and make a lifelong commitment to, a worthy, compatible mate.

• Understand the role of gender in developing intimacy.

• Form a strong foundation for marriage in your dating as you grow into what marriage is about.

EDITORIAL REVIEWS

“This is a brilliant book! Sam Andreades has found the sweet spot in reading both Scripture and culture simultaneously to anticipate, articulate, and answer the questions that young people (and their parents) are now asking. He then directs them on how to live faithfully and proactively in the creation ordinance in a post-Obergefell world, where everything from sexual difference to biblical marriage is vexed with Orwellian confusion and despised by those with cultural capital. The writing style is both informal and compelling, and Sam’s pastor’s heart (and the tire-treads on that heart) are evident throughout.”
— Rosaria Butterfield, Author, The Gospel Comes with a House Key

“Sam Andreades offers provocative and profoundly insightful advice for men and women about dating. This book is sure to make its readers think and rethink how they go about seeking a spouse.”
— Dr. Joel R. Beeke, President, Puritan Reformed Theological Seminary, Grand Rapids, Michigan

“Sam has taken his pioneering, countercultural work on gender in his last book, enGendered, and applied it here for the church to one of her most misunderstood topics. The Church in America is between a rock and a hard place with regard to dating. First, she struggles to disciple people in an overly sexualized culture that views relationships as disposable and transactional. Yet Church is also still grappling with the damage from past teaching on dating that was unbiblical, reactionary, and legalistic. Between that Scylla and Charybdis, Sam offers this refreshing and super-practical book. I will be mass distributing it in my church!”
— Geoff Bradford, Senior Pastor of Christ the King Presbyterian Church, Raleigh, and Philadelphia church-planter

“As a Pastor, it breaks my heart to see, on the one hand, so many marriages fail and then, on the other, to see marriages never take place as people are finding it increasingly difficult to find a suitable spouse. Even though online dating promises an abundance of “matches,” I hear story after story of how difficult it is to date successfully. I’m deeply thankful for Dr. Andreades, a reliable guide in assisting men and women to navigate the complexities of dating in our present cultural context. The author skillfully avoids legalism while at the same time providing an abundance of practical help that is deeply rooted in Scripture in general, and in a theology of gender in specific. I highly recommend this important book.”
— Darin Pesnell, Senior Lead Pastor of Iron Works Church, Phoenixville, and Head of the Iron Works Church Planting Network