Dating With Disorganized Attachment: A Guide and Workbook for Those Who Have a Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style and Want to Heal Fears of Rejection . Trust and Connection (The Magnolia Series)

Workbook with 43 exercises & Guidebook for beginners to advanced knowledge on attachment styles.

Do you shift between wanting connection and avoiding it?

Does the idea of a committed relationship excite you, but then when the possibility presents itself, you sabotage, leaving the relationship?

Do you struggle to trust and constantly expect or look for signs of betrayal?

Do you cling one minute, then push someone away the next, feeling guilty and wondering why these behaviors are used?

Dating with disorganized (fearful avoidant) attachment can start off seemingly fine, but often quickly prompts internal chaos as one wants love and connection while trying to maintain a sense of self. It may appear in simple terms like, "Come here; now go away." The disorganized attachment style has traits of both the anxious-preoccupied and the dismissive avoidant. You may cling and seek closeness if your partner seems uninterested, or you may figure "why bother?", giving into negative beliefs, or you may push others away when they get too close, or become jealous and controlling, finding it hard to regulate your emotions. You may find yourself constantly giving to others, ignoring your needs and boundaries, feeling as though you've been taken advantage of when the same isn't given to you, creating resentment. You may find yourself in the same types of relationships where it just never works out, or wonder why you resort to sabotaging to feel safe outside a relationship, but then have regrets soon after. The triggers and coping mechanisms have reasons behind them, and when awareness is given, healing can begin. Instead of relationships seeming like rollercoasters, constantly having highs and lows, learn how to nurture a loving and trusting relationship.

This book is meant to be used as a guide and workbook, full of useful and life-changing tools and tactics. It uncovers the reasons why those with disorganized attachment have certain fears and behaviors, and gives step-by-step exercises to heal from disorganized attachment and move toward a secure attachment. We will discuss the origins of disorganized attachment, pitfalls within dating, important things to learn and how to use healthy strategies so they become habitual instead of the programed negative ways. All this information will help with awareness, covering protest behaviors (coping mechanisms), wounds, triggers, needs, boundaries, communication, emotional regulation, trust and vulnerability, love languages, expectations, pairings, a brief overview of breakups, dating scenarios, all to how it relates to the disorganized style and dating. At the end, we will go over what a secure relationship looks like, and dive into our toolkit with 43 exercises promoting a secure style, including examples to walk you through each step, and lined space to write responses.

What's inside?

• A brief introduction to Attachment Theory & the four attachment styles
• Pitfalls for the disorganized style in dating
• Scenarios, including what the disorganized style commonly does versus how a secure style would react
• Important things to learn
• Tools and Tactics
• Disorganized attachment paired with each of the four styles
• A look into breakups for the disorganized style
• Your Toolkit - 43 exercises broken down into steps, including examples to walk you through & lined space to write

Become aware of the pitfalls, learn healthy strategies to overcome contradicting behaviors, and find relief in your dating experiences. Start today!



Though helpful, this is not to be a substitute for therapy or counseling.