Emotionally Savvy Divorce : Smart Negotiations for a Clean Break

Harness your emotions and negotiate effectively for a healthier post-divorce future.

Your emotions don’t have to be a liability. When properly understood, your feelings during a divorce can be invaluable guides to fair settlements, better communication, and a brighter future. Through candid client stories and step-by-step exercises, veteran divorce attorney and experienced mediator Katherine Miller helps you turn emotional turmoil into a negotiation advantage―so you can walk away with a settlement that respects both your needs and your future.

Miller reframes the divorce process as an emotional transition rather than just a legal battle and adapts business negotiation techniques to untangling the knot of shared finances, parenting, and identity. She exposes the hidden traps couples often fall into and teaches you to recognize what truly matters so you can preserve your mental well-being. Then she shifts to a practical deep dive on how to negotiate effectively: how to identify your core interests, leverage your emotions at the bargaining table, and handle high-conflict situations without escalating tensions. With insights into proposal structuring and conflict resolution techniques, Miller guides you toward a final agreement that feels equitable and respects everyone involved.

By placing empathy and strategy on equal footing, The Emotionally Savvy Divorce offers a fresh, humane approach to dissolving a marriage. Drawing from her substantial background in collaborative law and mediation, Katherine Miller delivers a blueprint for a clean break―one where you stay true to yourself, keep your family’s best interests at heart, and come away with a settlement that supports a stable future. If you’re facing divorce and want to stay in control―of your emotions, your negotiations, and your future―this book will give you the tools to navigate the toughest conversations and secure a settlement that truly works for you.

Katherine E. Miller, JD, is a divorce attorney, mediator, and founder of the Miller Law Group, a New York–based firm committed to helping clients navigate divorce with clarity, dignity, and deep respect for family dynamics. She founded the firm with a simple but powerful intention: to treat clients as people first and to truly protect the interests of their children throughout the divorce process. Her podcast, Divorce Dialogues, explores relationships, parenting, and life after divorce.
Miller’s mission is to empower people to divorce without destruction―focusing instead on values, strategy, and emotional intelligence. She is co-author of the #1 Amazon bestseller A Cup of Coffee with 10 of the Top Divorce Attorneys in the United States and author of The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce. Her insights have been featured by CBS New York, NBC, The New York Times, Money Magazine, HuffPost, TheStreet.com, and more.