The Energy of Forgiveness: Lessons from Those in Restorative Dialogue

Forgiveness is a profound, life-changing experience for many people who have been hurt by others. But forgiveness is paradoxical in that if one relies on forgiveness language or if others prescribe it as an expectation, the depth of that experience can be significantly compromised. By the same token, many people experience deep forgiveness without ever using the language of forgiveness. Most of the stories in this book testify to how forgiveness is experienced primarily as an inner unburdening of negative emotions, a process that is aided by safe, facilitated dialogue with the offending party. New research on the benefits of forgiveness is on the rise these days, yet there is often little narrative to show the power of forgiveness. The authors present more than twelve case studies that led up to restorative dialogue processes where parties chose to meet together. Whether the case involves the murder of a loved one, a burglary, or the buildup of workplace tensions, a common pattern emerges: as both parties encounter the true humanity of the other person, the negative energy stemming from the offense is transformed into a positive energy that gives both parties a deep inner peace and new freedom.

Mark Umbreit is Professor of Social Work at the University of Minnesota, Director of the Center for Restorative Justice & Peacemaking (CRJP), on the faculty of the Center for Spirituality & Healing, and author of numerous books. Jennifer Blevins is a PhD candidate, part of the community faculty of Social Work at the University of Minnesota, and researcher for CRJP. Ted Lewis is Communications Director for CRJP. Since 1996 he has worked as a restorative justice mediator, trainer, program manager, and consultant.

Jennifer Blevins is a PhD candidate, part of the community faculty of Social Work at the University of Minnesota, and researcher for CRJP.

Ted Lewis (Editor) is a restorative justice consultant and trainer for the Center for Restorative Justice & Peacemaking (University of Minnesota). He lives in Duluth, Minnesota, where he runs the Agapé Peace Center.