Families We Lose (Paperback)

Paperback. Charts novel territory for the future of family in the 21st centuryAs society becomes more polarized around political and cultural beliefs, family estrangement has received increased attention. Going no contact with a parent, sibling, grandparent, or other extended family member is often portrayed as a sign of the further fraying of society or as a result of selfish choices that privilege the rights of the individual over the ability to compromise. In Families We Lose, Rin Reczek takes a different view, arguing that going no contact isn't done on a whim by selfish people or due only to specific individual circumstances. Instead, she argues that contemporary family estrangement is indicative of a more fundamental culture clash in the very meaning and expectations of family in the US today. Reczek shows that estrangement is sparked by a confrontation between the traditional culture which demands the family of origin is unconditionally forever and a rivaling idea of family that values the quality of contact, focusing on equity, accountability, personal and relationship evolution, mutual respect, and maturity. At stake in the clash between compulsory and democratized kinship is a battle to determine the very meaning of "family" in the US today.Based on in-depth interviews with a diverse set of adults who are 'no-contact' with one or more family-of-origin member, Reczek reveals how these adults set new expectations about family. She shows that estrangement can be a path to healing, self-acceptance, and democratized configurations of family around the shared values of mutuality and intentional community. Shifting the focus from family reunification to family freedom, Families We Lose imagines a world where adults are empowered to choose who gets to be in their family even if it means leaving some ties behind. Shipping may be from multiple locations in the US or from the UK, depending on stock availability.…