Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves - and How to Find our Way Back

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Fawning is the vital, newly-discovered topic in psychology. You've heard of fight, flight and freeze - but fawning might be the most common trauma response of all. Learn how to work through it and find freedom with the leading expert, Dr. Ingrid Clayton.

Do you avoid conflict?
Do you tend to take the blame?
Do you take care of others at the expense of yourself?
Do you live in a state of hypervigilance?

Fawning can present as being more of who someone is: smart, generous, successful, funny, or beautiful, while for others it's about being less: vocal, ethnic, creative, self-assured or boundaried. Fawning can be visible or invisible; it can manifest in our relationships to sex or money, or in the tendency to 'people-please'; but one thing remains constant: it is about finding safety in an unsafe world, often at our own expense.

Fawning expert and clinical psychologist Dr. Ingrid Clayton is here to bring clarity and support. The first book by a practitioner with years of experience, Fawning will shine a light on this under-represented but crucial piece of the trauma puzzle. Drawing on twenty years of clinical psychology work, as well as a lifetime of insight as a recovering fawner herself, this groundbreaking book brings this emerging concept into the mainstream conversation. Readers will learn WHY we fawn, HOW to recognize the signs of fawning and WHAT we can do to successfully 'unfawn', using Clayton's invaluable tools and resources to find meaningful, reciprocal connections - and finally be ourselves.

Ingrid Clayton, PhD is a clinical psychologist in Los Angeles, California. She has been in private
practice since 2009. While continually expanding her expertise and training in trauma, Ingrid has always been interested in taking little-known concepts and expanding their reach. Her first book was based on her dissertation research on spiritual bypassing and its impact on recovery for alcoholics and addicts. Recovering Spirituality: Achieving Emotional Sobriety in Your Spiritual Practice was published by Hazelden in 2011 (6,869 in sales).

Ingrid is a regular contributor to Psychology Today where her blog has received over 1 million views. The article, "What is Self-Gaslighting?" is considered an Essential Read. This topic is related to fawning and will be highlighted in Fawning.

In 2022, Ingrid self-published a memoir, Believing Me: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse and Complex Trauma which uncovers her personal experience of childhood trauma from a psychologist's perspective. Ingrid took on every aspect of this project by herself, and without a marketing team or distribution, she's sold a total of 12,437 books: 8,677 paperback and ebooks in 14 months and 3760 audiobooks in 12 months.