How to Find and Keep a Gay Man: 69 Spicy Tips for Lasting Love

ALERT, ALERT! Calling all the gay boys to the yard because WE. NEED. HELP.

Hello, you gorgeous gay man! The truth is anyone can swipe right and find someone to spend a hot second with. But lasting love―the kind that shows up with coffee on a rough morning, listens when you tell the same ole' story at dinner parties, and promises to love you forever and ever amen (and actually keeps that promise)―well, that's rare.

But what if it's not as hard as you think?

As a life coach who's seen it all, from wedding bells to heartbreak hotels, Matt Bays delivers the ultimate guide for the modern gay man looking to find and nurture lasting love. With 69 honest and entertaining essays, How to Find & Keep a Gay Man is your new best friend in the world of gay dating. This guidebook is filled with thoughtful reflections, heartwarming affirmations, and REAL BIG TIPS for keeping things fresh, fun, meaningful, spicy, and even a little dirty! The ins and outs (iykyk) of dating in the gay world are all here, and darling, they are queer AF… so get used to it.

Can't seem to stop chasing the wrong guys? Then honey, this book is for you! It's time to figure this out, fight for your worth, and find the man of your dreams.

Because YOU are worth it, queen.

Love you. Mean it.

Matt Bays is a speaker, life coach, and author known for his nationally released memoir Finding God in the Ruins and his debut LGBTQ memoir Leather & Lace. Both his writing and music have appeared in HuffPost, The Advocate, and Out Magazine. Through his compelling podcast, How to Find (& Keep) a Gay Man, Matt empowers gay men seeking meaningful connection.

Often compared to writers like Glennon Doyle and Anne Lamott, Matt brings readers a voice that is honest, raw, funny, and deeply compassionate. His unique perspective inspires authenticity and courage for the journey of life.

Originally from the U.S., Matt now lives in Porto, Portugal, with his husband, Chris. Connect with him on Instagram: @mattbayswriter.