The First Man: My First Time With Another Man and How it Changed My Life

Truth be told, when I was a young man, I never once imagined myself being with another man. I was a confident, handsome eighteen-year-old straight guy, proud of my relationship with my steady girlfriend, and completely unaware of any men being attracted me. I had no interest in men whatsoever. Honestly, I had never even encountered someone gay. If I knew anyone gay at all, it was a secret they hid from me and the world. Those conversations or hints of their existence were completely absent from my world. It was like they belonged to a different universe, one that I wasn’t allowed to see or understand.

Then, in one truly unforgettable evening, everything changed and completely shifted my perspective. I wasn’t prepared for what was to come because I was so sure of myself as a straight man, totally into my girlfriend, comfortable in my own world. That night, I met someone who challenged every idea I’d ever had. The guy I met was also straight, but he was into this thing he called “Bro-fun.” It’s having intimate moments with other men for fun among other reasons. He was the first man to introduce me to what it’s like to be with another man. That night, I learned what it really means to connect in a different way and to share intimacy with another man. It opened my eyes to new possibilities. To the experience and to what it’s like for a man to make love to you. I couldn’t believe how much two guys could share together. It was truly an eye-opening experience. That night became something I’d later share with others curious about what two men can do together.