Good Girl Deprogramming – Teen Edition
A bold, empowering workbook for girls aged 10–14 who are ready to stop people-pleasing and start choosing themselves.
From the moment they can talk, many girls are told to be polite, pretty, helpful, quiet, kind, and good. But who really benefits from all that “goodness”?
This practical, age-appropriate workbook helps girls understand where those unspoken rules come from — and how to rewrite them. Through real talk, relatable stories, journaling prompts and creative activities, Good Girl Deprogramming – Teen Edition invites girls to ask big questions, explore their feelings, and build the confidence to make choices that feel right for them.
Inside, they’ll discover how to:
- Say no without guilt
- Set boundaries and trust their gut
- Handle pressure from friends, school and social media
- Be kind without shrinking or self-sacrificing
- Notice internalised beliefs about being “good” or “perfect”
- Think critically and speak up for themselves
- Rest, feel, and take up space — without needing permission
There are no grades, no right answers, and no pressure to perform. Just space to think, grow, and be real.
Whether used at home, in schools, or in group settings, this is more than just a workbook. It’s a guide for unlearning outdated rules, tuning into your voice, and remembering your worth.
Created by psychologist Michelle Minnikin and teacher–tutor–business owner Caroline Bowmer, this is more than a workbook — it’s the start of a lifelong conversation.
Michelle is a chartered organisational psychologist, coach and author of Good Girl Deprogramming. Caroline is a former teacher and head of department who now supports teens through tutoring and mindset coaching. As parents, educators, and rebels with a cause, they’ve created the book they both wish they’d had at that age.
Includes FREE access to the Caregiver Companion.
Parents, teachers, youth workers and trusted adults can walk alongside the girls in their lives with confidence and care. The companion guide includes conversation prompts, insights into “good girl” conditioning, and space for their own unlearning too.
What Readers Are Saying:
“This book is essential for any parent or caregiver with a preteen or teen girl at home. Before reading this, I thought I was doing it all right, but there was so much I didn’t know, and it’s opened a really healthy dialogue between my daughters and me. I cannot recommend this book enough!”
— Jen Tait, Parent & Early Reader
Who It’s For:
- Girls aged 10–14 who are starting to question the rules
- Families who want to raise strong, emotionally literate daughters
- Schools, educators and wellbeing leads looking for fresh PSHE resources
- Youth workers and community leaders who support girls’ growth
- Anyone who wants to support a girl in becoming fully herself
If you’re tired of watching girls shrink themselves to fit in… this book is for you.
If you’re ready to start a new kind of conversation — one about voice, power, and self-worth — this is your starting point.
Because the world doesn’t need more “good girls.”
It needs girls who are real, whole, and free.
Michelle Minnikin is a Chartered Organisational Psychologist, coach, speaker, and author of Good Girl Deprogramming. She's Co-Founder of The Deprogramming Company, where she helps women unlearn people-pleasing and perfectionism, reclaim their voice, and lead like themselves. Based in Durham, Michelle works globally to support radically authentic, powerfully messy leadership.
Caroline Bowmer is a former teacher and head of department turned tutor and business owner. With over 15 years' experience in top UK schools, she helps teenagers build confidence and thrive. As a mum, she's passionate about raising girls to be strong, self-aware, and free to be themselves.
