Grateful for the Fight: Using inner conflict to transform yourself and your relationships

"Don't waste your conflict."

Grateful for the Fight goes beyond resolving conflict to using conflict to transform lives. Neufeld cautions that the urgency in today's society to resolve conflict might be a sophisticated way of bypassing the true value of conflict. If we let it, conflict can be our ally-an unusual window into the self. By investigating our fears and releasing them, we stand to make a true and lasting change that will improve our daily lives and every one of our relationships.

The premise of Grateful for the Fight, Neufeld's first book, is that if we have the necessary fight with ourselves, we won't be having unnecessary fights with others-and we will be more equipped to have the necessary ones. Using real case scenarios and personal experiences, Neufeld demonstrates how using outer conflict to work through inner conflict points to a greater capacity for growth and resilience in uncomfortable situations.

If you're ready to heal personal and mutual sensitivities, gain greater inner peace, and enjoy a relationship with more intimacy and vitality, welcome! You've come to the right place.

Viola Neufeld has made a career of helping individuals, couples, families, students, and workplaces use conflict to achieve personal and collective change, regain fulfilling relationships, and build dynamic organizations. She has used the same revolutionary approach to interpersonal conflict to maintain a vibrant family life and build lifelong friendships.

Neufeld has a Master's degree in social work from California State University and is a Registered Couple and Family Therapist with the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, a Registered Social Worker with the British Columbia College of Social Workers, and a roster mediator with Mediate BC. Since 2004, Neufeld has been an associate faculty member in the Conflict Analysis and Management Program at Royal Roads University, Victoria, BC.

She lives in Vancouver, BC, and says of her methodology, "I love where a worthy fight can take us."