Insecure in Love: How Anxious Attachment Can Make You Feel Jealous, Needy, and Worried and What You Can Do About It

Do you struggle with anxious attachment in relationships?

If you constantly worry about your partner pulling away, feel jealous or insecure, or fear abandonment in romantic relationships, you may have an anxious attachment style. Rooted in early attachment experiences, attachment anxiety can leave you overthinking texts, seeking reassurance, or feeling overwhelmed by relationship uncertainty.

In Insecure in Love, you’ll learn how to overcome anxious attachment using compassionate self-awareness―a practical, research-informed approach that helps you regulate emotions and build secure relationships.

In this book, you’ll learn how to:

• Identify the signs of anxious attachment and fear of abandonment
• Break patterns of jealousy, reassurance-seeking, and emotional reactivity
• Stop overthinking and calm relationship anxiety
• Communicate your needs clearly without pushing your partner away
• Replace self-criticism with self-compassion
• Build the foundation for secure, lasting love

Through guided exercises and clear explanations, you’ll understand how attachment insecurity affects communication, conflict, and intimacy―and gain the tools to change those patterns without shame or self-blame.

If you’re tired of repeating the same painful relationship cycles, this compassionate guide will help you move from attachment anxiety to emotional security―so you can build the loving, stable relationship you deserve.

Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD, is a licensed psychologist, author, and speaker. She writes The Art of Relationships blog for WebMD and is the relationship expert for WebMD’s relationships and coping community. She also writes the blog Making Change for Psychology Today. Becker-Phelps previously served at Somerset Medical Center in Somerville, NJ, as director of women's psychological services and chief of psychology in the department of psychiatry. She lives with her husband and two sons in Basking Ridge, NJ. Find out more about her at www.drbecker-phelps.com.