They Don't Like Me : Lessons on Bullying and Teasing from a Preschool Classroom

In her new book, Jane Katch explores the painful problems of bullying, teasing, and exclusion. Why, she wonders, does a young child, just becoming aware of the existence of the group, feel such a strong need to keep another child out? And is it possible to teach children to create social groups that aren't defined by excluding others?

With her acute eye and deft pen, Katch watches her class of four- and five-year-olds begin to form exclusionary groups and tells us what happens as she tries to intervene. Talking with her brother, who teased her as a child; with high school kids; and, as always, with her class, Katch comes to new understandings of why some kids bully and scapegoat, how other kids get through the experience, and how she as a teacher might intervene. They Don't Like Me is at once a fascinating, absorbing look into the social lives of children and a book for teachers and parents who are trying to understand how to prevent exclusion and how to support children who are being teased and bullied.

Jane Katch is the author of Under Deadman's Skin: Discovering the Meaning of Children's Violent Play and a contributor to Educational Leadership.A veteran teacher, she counseled emotionally disturbed children with Bruno Bettelheim at the Orthogenic School and taught kindergarten with Vivian Paley at the University of Chicago Lab School. She now teaches young children at the Touchstone Community School in Grafton, Massachusetts, and lives in Connecticut with her family.