Love Trauma: Separation to Post Divorce

Dr. Wagner’s Love Trauma compassionately explores the mighty divide that opens up when divorce or separation happens. His thorough and patient dissection of that divide allows divorcees to recognize the demons that keep us from getting beyond the divorce, the pitfalls of various post-divorce behaviors, and the procedures we can take to move past the pain. His examination of the divorcee’s viewpoint works like magic to make us feel we are not alone and indeed, that many people suffer the same kinds of indignities after divorce. But the examples of those who have got beyond it lift our spirits and make us believe surviving Love Trauma is possible.

Chapters include:

• The Fight—Who is the enemy? Putting on the gloves, The Need to Fight, Fighting the Right Fight

• The Furies—dealing with hate, anger, guilt, jealousy, and fear

• The Victory—knowing you’ve beat your true enemies

• From Loneliness to Aloneness—the essential move

• Wonderment—an ingredient of happiness

• Finding a Home—dealing with substance and alcohol abuse, workaholism, reclusiveness, and promiscuity.

Paul A. Wagner, B.S. Political Science and economics (double major), M.A. (philosophy), M. Ed. (Higher Education Administration), Ph.D. (Philosophy).Dr. Wagner has always been very active in civic and charitable affairs. Beginning in Columbia, Missouri, he served as Vice Chair of the City's Human Rights Commission. In Houston, Texas, he has served on numerous Board of Directors including the Houston Marathon, Leadership Houston, The Houston Volunteer Center, The Bay Area Symphony Society, Bay Oaks School, and numerous committees in organizations such as the American Cancer Society, the Society for Prevention of Cruelty to Animals, Second Baptist's Pastor Prayer Team, the Linda Lorelle Scholarship Foundation, and the Sparacino Dance Company. He has done consulting in strategic planning and management practice with a number of corporations, hospitals, and universities, such as The Houston Chronicle, M.D. Anderson Hospital Volunteer Division, and the University of San Francisco. He has also held a number of senior-level positions in scholarly organizations. He was named an Outstanding Young Man while in Columbia, Missouri, and has been awarded inclusion in the following since then: Who's Who in America, Who's Who in the World, Who's Who in Education, Who's Who among America's Teachers, to name but a few. He has taught at universities from coast to coast and from the northern Midwest to the South. He has taught from undergraduate to doctoral students. At the university level, he has taught in the following areas: philosophy, psychology, political science, education, cognitive science, economics, "Development of the Sciences," management theory (MBA program), organizational behavior, and applied ethics in a course for doctoral students in two different doctoral-granting institutions. One course was titled "Ethics, Values and Responsibilities" and the other, "Ethics of Administrative Leadership."For thirteen years he emceed and was an expert commentator several times each year for public television. In addition to living in Houston for forty years, he also had a small ranch out near Brenham, Texas. He has run over 50,000 miles in his life according to running journals he has kept since he was 28. He has over 160 publications listed on Google Scholar including nine previous books. He is a member of a number of professional organizations including the American Philosophical Association, the Evangelical Philosophical Society, the American Psychological Association, the American Association of Public Administrators, and the Association of Practical and Professional Ethics. Finally, he was a founding member of the Texas State Ethics Commission and the LBJ School of Public Affairs, University of Texas annual Ethics workshop for senior State Officials in the 1990s. To top everything off, he was an altar boy from 11 - 13 years old at St. Barbara's Church in the suburbs of Chicago.