I Loved an Alcoholic, But Hated the Drinking: 11 Essential Strategies to Survive Codependency and Live in Recovery with Self-Love

Breaking her silence, sharing her success, in Grace's second book, she gives 11 essential strategies to survive loving an alcoholic—sharing what she calls "the self-love solution."

What Can Self-Love Do For You?

“Have you ever loved a person so much that you stopped loving yourself?”

Love—beautiful in all its glory—can sometimes be a terrible thing. Love tainted with alcohol and laced with codependency can easily turn beauty into despair.

Grace W. Wroldson found herself caught in a war. She realized that she loved an alcoholic, but in exchange she gave up loving herself. Rather than continue to seek help for him, instead, she sought help and healing for herself. To save her own life, she called forth a wrath of self-love.

On his very first Father’s Day, she realized just how severe the drinking had become when he drove intoxicated across three towns to visit their newborn baby.

That day reminded her of exactly why she ended the toxic relationship with him. Why couldn’t he see that his drinking was dangerous? That he was losing everything? What was wrong with him? Crushed for the hundredth time, she asked herself—“What is wrong with me?”

Determined to save her child from an alcoholic home, she found the courage to stop all his visits. But to her horror, the family courts ordered unsupervised visitations for the alcoholic. Reluctantly, choking back her shock, grief, and tears, she pried her clinging, crying baby out of her arms, and buckled her into the alcoholic’s truck—as she was ordered to do.

Powered by her recovery and using these strategies, she battled in court, obtained interventions, and was blessed to watch her child thrive as the result of her new choices. She learned how to win “the war within” to live a happy and fulfilling life. Her strategies were her secrets to their safety and success. She survived alcoholic-love and gained the rewards of self-love.

In her new book, I Loved an Alcoholic, But Hated the Drinking: 11 Essential Strategies to Survive Codependency and Live in Recovery with Self-Love, Grace continues her journey of recovery by sharing her wisdom to help you overcome it all. These specific strategies are for a struggling codependent. To help you find your strength and begin again— with a focus on yourself. Learn how to “strategize to survive” and use your power of choice.

“I know you love them, but is it time to love yourself more?”

Grace W. Wroldson is a survivor, mother, and author of So You Love an… Alcoholic?: Lessons for a Codependent, and has worked her recovery program for over twenty years. She encourages others who are struggling with codependency issues to courageously place themselves in the center of their own lives. Her mission is to help spare children from toxic alcoholic homes.