The Marriage You Want: Moving beyond Stereotypes for a Relationship Built on Scripture, New Data, and Emotional Health

You want more than just a marriage that lasts. You want a marriage you love.
We're going to show you how to create it.

We all want a marriage that feels like home. We long for a partner who is there for us through all of life's challenges and griefs, who is in on all our inside jokes, who looks with hope toward the future with a shared faith and an arm firmly around our shoulder. But what actually works to get us there?

Based on data from an all-new study of married couples, researchers Sheila Wray Gregoire and Dr. Keith Gregoire uncover the keys to the marriage you long for, including

● which surprising struggle causes more long-term unhappiness than sex or money issues
● when compromise can actually make things worse
● how you might be prioritizing sex in the wrong way
● why the "unfairness threshold" matters--and how to avoid it
● how to uncover the real issue when you're in conflict (because it's usually not what you think)

Rather than relying on gender stereotypes, they look at what actually creates intimacy, emotional health, and connection, asking deeper questions that lead to real healing and growth in your relationship with your spouse. With the evidence-based, Scripture-honoring advice in this book, the marriage you want may be closer than you imagine.

Sheila Wray Gregoire is the founder of Bare Marriage, where she writes and podcasts about healthy, evidence-based approaches to sex, gender, and relationships. She is a sought-after speaker and the bestselling author of nine books, including The Great Sex Rescue, The Marriage You Want, and She Deserves Better. With her humorous, no-nonsense approach, Gregoire is passionate about changing the evangelical conversation about sex and marriage to make it healthy, evidence-based, and biblical. She and her husband, Keith, live in Ontario, Canada, near their two adult daughters and three grandbabies.

Dr. Keith Gregoire is a physician and coauthor with Sheila of The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex, companion to her award-winning The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex. Currently, Keith spends most of his professional time providing pediatric care to remote communities in northern Ontario. Plus he birdwatches. Even during mosquito season.