The You You've Never Met, Revised Edition: How to Stop Experiencing Pain and Chaos in All of Your Relationships by Sobering Up, Emotionally Speaking

Modern science suggests that we may be addicted to our emotions of anger, guilt, fear, sadness, and more. Are drugs, alcohol, and other secondary dependencies simply masking an addiction to destructive emotions? If this is true, then we need what all addicts need... sobriety!

Do you feel discontent, frustration in relationships, confusion regarding other's behaviors, or that you are often unheard or misunderstood? You may have heard of emotional intelligence as the awareness of your feelings and how to live with them. But if you have relied on emotional intelligence as a solution to your problems, you may have noticed it wasn't a complete solution. Author Dr. Andrea Vitz, gives us this how-to, self-work book and accompanying journal, dedicated to push its reader further than ever before in self-investigation. It asks us to look within in a new and realistic way, exposing all the parts of us we may choose to change, and she shows us how! She teaches us how to not only outsmart our negative emotions, but how to overcome our predisposition to creating them for survival in the first place. EMSO (Emotional Sobriety) Training is a precise and organized process, guiding you to reveal the you you've never met.

Before Dr. Andrea Vitz taught emotional sobriety, she had to develop it herself. She describes her former self as defensive, childish, and dishonest. Her determination to become better for her daughter and her relationships became the foundation of her life's work.
Today, Andrea is a bestselling author, TEDx speaker, Doctor of Chiropractic, and creator of Emotional Sobriety Training™ (EMSO). Her books, The You You've Never Met and The Composure Challenge, offer a structured path to examining the beliefs and emotional patterns behind habitual reactions—and developing the maturity, poise, and self-command to live differently. Her work centers on emotional sobriety: freedom from the negative emotions that can turn you into a version of yourself you did not consciously choose.
She is co-founder and president of Lifted Academy, named Best Personal Development Program in California for 2025. On a mission to change the standard of emotional reactivity in human nature within her lifetime. Through its advanced personal development curriculum, Andrea teaches high achievers, professionals, dedicated seekers, couples, and families to turn insight into demonstrable change. At the heart of her mission is a conviction: the patterns you have lived with do not have to define the person you become.
A wife, mother and national champion powerlifter, Andrea lives in Northern California, where she continues to teach, write, and train.
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