Parent the Child You Have, Not the Child You Were: Break Generational Patterns, Raise Thriving Kids

“I’m going to do the opposite of everything my parents did.”

Your childhood memories can have a profound impact on how you interact with, parent, and bond with your children. And while your actions may come from a loving place, when you parent through your past, you unknowingly make parenting decisions that attempt to satisfy your own unmet childhood needs, rather than tuning into what your child needs right now.

In Parent the Child You Have, Not the Child You Were, expert family therapist Dr. Brie Turns-Coe introduces the tools you need to begin parenting in the present—allowing you to rebuild the parent-child relationship and develop a deeper connection with your child that allows them to thrive.

Whether you’re raising a defiant teenager, a moody adolescent, or a tantrum-prone toddler, this book will help you:

• Heal from childhood wounds that dictate how you parent
• Break free from toxic parenting styles
• Communicate effectively with your child in times of distress
• Parent with greater intention
• Adjust unrealistic parenting expectations
• Grieve the child (or childhood) you wish you had

Brie Turns-Coe, PhD, LMFT, ASDCS, is an associate professor of marriage and family therapy at Arizona Christian University and the director of the Master of Marriage and Family Therapy program. Dr. Turns-Coe has presented at local, state, national, and international conferences on parenting and published extensively on the topic of family therapy. She has treated hundreds of parents who were parenting through their past traumas and helped them achieve healing and strengthen their relationships. To learn more about her work and read success stories from other parents, visit her at www.drbrieturns.com or follow her on social media (@thefamilytherapist).