Past Present: How to Stop Making the Same Relationship Mistakes--and Start Building a Better Life

Past Present shows readers how to change destructive relationship patterns by identifying the root issues from their pasts and finding the source of healing for their unique stories.

No matter where we are in life, both our greatest joys and our deepest heartaches are linked to the people in our lives--family, friends, or coworkers. And each of us brings both beauty and brokenness into relationships. The origins of our beauty and our brokenness often can be traced to the patterns of relating we learned when we were young. We relate to others in ways that reflect the distorted messages we heard and internalized earlier in life. The good news is this: we don't have to remain stuck in these patterns. In Past Present, Scott Vaudrey equips us with tools and a strategy to

• identify the messages we've internalized--both as children and as adults--from the influential people in our lives;
• refute and repair the distorted messages that led to unhelpful patterns now holding us back; and
• recognize the productive messages we internalized and maximize the strengths they built into us along the way.

We can't undo yesterday. But we can do the rest of our lives better.

Scott Vaudrey is a retired emergency department doctor and pastor. He received his MD from the University of Washington in 1988, and a Master’s in Transformational Leadership from Bethel University in 2005. After transitioning from medicine to ministry, he served as a pastor for sixteen years, helping thousands of people navigate their relational challenges. Today he splits his time between executive coaching and speaking to staff teams, nonprofits, churches, and organizations around the country about how to improve relationships and create thriving team cultures. Scott and his wife, September, live in the northwest suburbs of Chicago. They raised five children and have three grandkids—and counting. To learn more about Scott’s credentials or to contact him about coaching or speaking, go to scottvaudrey.com.