Perfectionism is exhausting.
For gifted children, teens, and adults, the constant pressure to succeed, fear of mistakes, overthinking, procrastination, anxiety, and “never good enough” thinking can quietly steal joy from learning and life.
In Perfectionism, educator and gifted expert offers a practical, research-based guide to understanding and managing perfectionism in healthy, realistic ways.
Rather than encouraging readers to simply “lower standards,” this book helps perfectionists:
- build resilience
- develop healthier thinking patterns
- manage fear of failure
- increase motivation without burnout
- replace self-criticism with self-awareness
- develop optimism and emotional strength
Written in a warm, conversational style, this book translates research on mindset, perseverance, habits, and goal-setting into strategies that actually work in everyday life.
Perfect for:
- parents of gifted children
- teachers and counselors
- perfectionistic teens and tweens
- gifted adults
- anyone struggling with anxiety tied to achievement and self-worth
Readers will discover practical tools, real-life examples, and immediately usable strategies for turning perfectionism from a source of stress into a pathway toward growth.
Winner of the 2018 TAGT Legacy Award for Best Book for Parents of the Gifted.
Lisa Van Gemert is an educator and consultant who specializes in the social and emotional needs of gifted learners. Through years of working with students, parents, and teachers, she has seen firsthand how perfectionism can quietly shape the lives of bright children and teens.
Known as "The Gifted Guru," Lisa helps educators and families better understand the inner experiences of gifted learners, including anxiety, motivation, intensity, emotional sensitivity, and perfectionism. Her work combines research-based insight with practical, compassionate strategies that people can actually use in real life.
Lisa speaks internationally on gifted education and creates professional development courses and resources for educators who want to support the whole child, not just academic achievement.
She believes that gifted learners deserve environments where they can grow with confidence, resilience, and joy.