How We Relate: A Psychologist’s Guide to Building and Maintaining Good Relationships

Understanding relationships isn’t just about other people―it starts with understanding yourself and where you've come from.

In How We Relate, clinical and forensic psychologist Dr Ahona Guha takes us on an illuminating journey through the psychology of human connection. Drawing from her many years of clinical experience, she reveals how our earliest relationships shape every connection we form―from family and friendships to romance and work.

How do childhood blueprints influence adult behaviors? Why do some friendships fail while others flourish? What makes the difference between healthy and toxic dynamics? With warmth and practical insight, Guha explores the hidden patterns that govern our interactions, offering concrete strategies for breaking free from destructive cycles.

Whether you’re struggling with difficult family members, navigating workplace politics, or seeking deeper intimacy in love, this book provides the psychological tools to understand yourself and transform your relationships. How We Relate is your guide to building the meaningful connections you deserve.

Dr Ahona Guha is a clinical and forensic psychologist who works with both victims and perpetrators of abuse. Her first book, Reclaim: understanding complex trauma and those who abuse was published in 2023, and her second, Life Skills for a Broken World was published in 2024. She writes widely for the media on matters related to mental health, health, social justice, and equity. Her work has appeared in The Age, The Guardian, The Saturday Paper, Breathe Magazine, SBS, and ABC. You can find out more about her work at www.ahonaguha.com. Ahona lives in Melbourne, Australia.