Romantic Intelligence: How to Be as Smart in Love as You Are in Life

High intelligence may predict your speed at solving math problems or whether you will win a Nobel Prize, but it doesn’t guarantee success, happiness, or personal fulfillment. Being smart in life requires much more than a high IQ. A more reliable indicator of happiness potential is your EQ—Emotional Quotient: the measure of your emotional depth and dexterity. Satisfying relationships rely on "romantic intelligence"—a set of attitudes and behaviors that work together to build fantastic partnerships. From this practical book, learn how to enhance emotional self-awareness. Practice emotional honesty and deal with toxic emotions: jealousy, competition, control, and dependency. Understand what really makes love work and how to make it happen.

Mary Valentis, Ph.D., is a lecturer in English at the State University of New York, Albany. Coauthor of Brave New You: 12 Dynamic Strategies for Saying What You Want and Being Who You Are; Female Rage: Unlocking Its Secrets, Claiming Its Power, and editor of The American Sublime, she has published articles in New Woman Magazine and in scholarly journals and collections. Her classes, retreats, and workshops focus on women’s issues, romantic love, trauma writing, and popular culture.

John Valentis, Ph.D., has been involved in the mental health field since 1975. Dr. Valentis has an independent practice in clinical hypnosis and psychotherapy and specializes in motivation, relationships, and the psychology of health. The hose of radio stations WALE’s The Dr. John Valentis Show, a call-in advice program, he has been a guest on national and local television. He presents training seminars on various mental health issues and skill enhancement for physicians and mental health practitioners.