Codependency books have told you to stop people-pleasing. They have told you to set boundaries. They have told you to put yourself first. And you have tried. But the patterns keep coming back because the books that told you what to change never explained why you cannot. The reason is not a lack of willpower. The reason is early maladaptive schemas, deeply rooted emotional patterns formed in childhood that silently run your relationships, your boundaries, and your sense of self.
The First Workbook to Apply Schema Therapy to Codependency
Schema therapy is one of the most effective evidence-based approaches for changing long-standing relational patterns. It was built to address the exact issues that drive codependency: subjugation, self-sacrifice, emotional deprivation, enmeshment, shame, and abandonment. Until now, no consumer workbook has applied this powerful clinical framework to codependency recovery. This workbook fills that gap with 14 structured chapters and over 80 practical exercises designed for self-guided use.
Understand the Roots of Your Patterns
Learn how six specific schemas drive people-pleasing, over-giving, conflict avoidance, and the chronic inability to prioritize your own needs. Trace each pattern to its childhood origin and understand why it persists. Map your schema modes, the shifting emotional states that take over during relational stress, and build the Healthy Adult mode that can hold you steady when old patterns activate.
Heal with Proven Experiential Tools
Go beyond cognitive techniques with guided imagery rescripting, chair work dialogues, mode mapping, behavioral experiments, and a daily reparenting practice. Each exercise includes clear instructions, real writing space, and a defined endpoint so you always know what to do and when you are done.
Build a Life Beyond Codependency
Apply your tools to real-world situations: setting boundaries that stick, rebuilding relationships on reciprocity, navigating codependency at work, managing family triggers, and creating a sustainable long-term recovery plan. Includes complementary tools from ACT, DBT, and somatic awareness.
What Makes This Workbook Different
This is not a 12-step program. It does not require belief in a higher power. It does not frame codependency as a disease or a lifelong identity. It treats codependency as a set of learned patterns that can be identified, understood, and systematically changed using the most current evidence-based tools available. Includes complete appendices with all 18 schema definitions, schema mode reference guide, guided imagery scripts, tear-out flashcard templates, recommended resources, therapist-finding guide, and a group facilitator manual.
